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If you're into the law of attraction, but you're beginning to question, is a law of attraction all about getting a bunch of material things or is a law of attraction actually becoming someone? Well, today I'm gonna sit down with Emma Mumford, who is a huge influencer online. She teaches Law of Attraction. She's an award-winning life coach YouTuber two-time bestselling author, speaker, and podcast of the number one spiritual podcast on iTunes. Emma work has helped hundreds of thousands of people turn their dreams into an abundant reality. So she has an incredible story of how she actually began in debt after a breakup and how she transcended that and turned it into blessing other people and turn it into a career for herself. So if you're into the law of attraction, you definitely wanna listen to this podcast. Welcome to the Dr. Erin Podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity, I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe in you. Together we're awakening the world. 
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Okay, Amazing. I'm super excited to have you here and dive deep into law of attraction, manifesting what your thoughts are on trauma and how all the supplies really to the listener out there, they might be struggling still. They might be really just doing all their inner work, or they might be someone who already is a coach and really wanting to get to the next level. So I just wanna say welcome and thank you for being here with me today. 
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Thank you so much for having me, Dr. Aaron. I'm really excited to be here and talk all things trauma. 
(02:00):
Right. Amazing. So I would love for you to just introduce yourself to my audience. How did you get into this work? Usually people have gone through something traumatic themselves. People generally have gone through some really hard times. Take me there. What's your journey been actually coming here? 
(02:16):
<affirmative>? Well, it's definitely been traumatic, I can say that much. But it's interesting because I think before writing my latest book, I probably wouldn't have called it that if we'd have been talking about trauma. I've been like, Okay, I've been through some hard things, but I probably wouldn't have called it trauma. So I think it's interesting that sat here and now I can be like, Yeah, it was traumatic. All the things that have kind of got me here today. So really there's a whole journey in the book that happened in my childhood, but my kind of generic story or search of how I got to this point starts back in 2012 when I was in my late sorry, early twenties. So I was a banking manager at the time. So I was working as a banker, which was a very different career path to what I saw myself in. 
(03:03):
I had no desire to be a banker. I had no plans to be It was just a job that I fell into after leaving college and something to pay the bills essentially. And at that time I was in a not so great relationship and we had be lift turn up at the door and I had no idea of this that my ex had had debts, didn't know anything about it. And obviously I was 18, 19 at that point. So it was really stressful as such a young adult to be experiencing that and not have any knowledge of how to deal with bailiffs or how to deal with that. I knew nothing of this. So that was a really pivotal part in my journey. So I took out a loan with the bank I was working with because I got preferential rates. I sort of Virgo head was like, Right, I'll clear the debt for you, you'll pay me back. 
(03:49):
Oh, all's good <laugh>, its good. But it wasn't unfortunately. So actually by the time we broke up, had around 30,000 pounds worth of debts I didn't know anything about. Obviously I had taken a loan out for the 7,000 and still to this day, he's never paid a single penny of it. As soon as I took out that loan, the relationship broke down so quickly and it was awful then having to think, right, that is my legal responsibility because here in the UK back then there wasn't really any support for people who were left in debt from partners or marriages or relationships. It was very much like it's your legal responsibility, tough, you have to pay it. So I was pretty much 1920 at that point, facing life with 7,000 pounds worth of debt. I had crippling depression at that point as well and I'd had depression along a lot of that journey but it really kind of got stronger and stronger and stronger as that debt came in. 
(04:44):
As obviously I then had to leave the banking role because I was working with people who I had to put in debt, I had to put people in debt every day. I was then in debt myself, and it was an extremely triggering situation to be around money and also had to tell people, No, you actually can't have a loan, you can't have a credit card, you can't have whatever is they were coming into me for. So it really soul crushed me that job because I wanted to help people, but not in that way. And I didn't wanna be targeted and have all that pressure to put people in debt as well, being in debt myself. So at that point, moving forwards, I then found extreme couponing, which was a really random thing to find. Oh, that's funny. But I loved the TLC show and I really thought, Wow, this is amazing. These people are saving thousands of thousands dollars worth of food. Imagine if I could do that here. Imagine if I could take that pressure off myself, save some money and clear my debt. So I was very much proactive about the whole thing. And here in the UK at the time, Cup couponing was not a thing. It was not spoken about. It was very sort taboo to talk about as well. So there wasn't much information out there. So I very 
(05:57):
Much took it just interjecting. I just wanted to, For the audience, I think it's really important because there's things that as we know, come down our track or intergenerational trauma and debt is one of them, which is so fascinating cuz when you take a look at Europe, there used to be debtor's prism and people when they got in debt, they'd get in debt and there was no out. And then when America came about, we actually, two staples that we got founded on was no debt prison. So you could go bankrupt and just be like, Oh, whatever, new business, which has been great and terrible because it's made us just be a lot of fraudulent stuff in our debt world. But I think it's important to talk about this for the audience because here you are, Emma and you're, you're going, Oh, I have debt, but you're also holding the whole angst and stress and everything that's come along before even embodied in this life. So I think it's important to interject in that. But go on. Great story. I love this. Keep going. 
(06:50):
Yeah, no, a hundred percent. I'm glad you shared that. So going along that journey, fan Extreme Cup couponing, loved it. It was such a positive impact on my mental health to be able to put positive energy towards something to help me and my friends were like, You should really share this with people. People would love to know how you're doing this because it's not, There's no one in the UK doing this. So after a lot of pestering, I started up a Facebook page, it was called Extreme Cup Couponing and Deals uk. And within six months it just totally blew up. It got half a million followers. The press here in the UK were nicknaming me the coupon queen. I was presenting on one of the biggest TV shows here in the uk and it just felt really surreal, if anything, because I hadn't planned to have a business, I hadn't planned to do any of that and I was still so young at this point as well in my early twenties. 
(07:39):
So it was thrust into the lime thrust into all these different things whilst experiencing depression, anxiety still. So it was a lot. It was lot, but it was also really positive and it was also a really fun time in my life to be able to experience all of that and turn that negative situation into something positive that will help so many people. So instead of the banking, putting people in debt, I was now helping people get out of debt and be more savvy with their money. So I ran that business for six years and then fast forward to 2016 is when I had my spiritual awakening and this was again when I was in a not so great relationship. So you can see the themes here, you can see the troll 
(08:18):
Was coming through. Love it. Yeah, so good. Thank you. Yeah, 
(08:21):
Love has been the biggest journey of my life, definitely. And at this point, the depression had got so much worse. It got to a point where I was thinking about suicide and thinking about what are my options here because I'm so miserable within my myself, what am I meant to do? I thought, surely this isn't what life is. Surely this, we shouldn't feel sad. How do I feel happy? And I didn't have those answers and I went an antidepressants. I tried C B T counseling, all the generic things that are on offer, but again, nothing was giving me long lasting results and nothing was really getting to the root or even diving into any of that. It was all surface level covering up and it just wasn't helping me to feel any. She better really. So when that relationship broke down I was at this point of what do I do? 
(09:14):
I'm at rock bottom. There has to be more to life than this. And that's when the law of attraction found me. I kept saying this word everywhere and I thought, what is this? What's the law of attraction? So from that point, again, it was a bit like couponing where I fell in love with it and it was a really positive thing I put my energy towards and put my attention towards. And within three or four weeks of doing it, I felt so differently. So polar opposite to how I'd felt for so long because I was learning what self-care and self love was. I was learning to heal and I was learning to have a positive mindset, which I definitely didn't have prior to that. So I really feel like the law of attraction saved me in so many different ways. And then come 2017, I thought, right, this is shifting. My company I was running was huge at this point, so it needed a team of people and I couldn't keep running it just by myself. And I felt like I wanted, again, shift how I was helping people and actually, yes, talk about money, but also talk about the law of attraction and how we can manifest money and have a positive relationship with money. So I sold my couponing business in 2018 and I've been doing this full time ever since, 
(10:25):
Which I love this because I think it's important for people to hear out there that you can be having success. Because I think so many people think, Well, if I just have success in money and have this, then my depression will go away. Nope, not gonna happen. So I want people to hear that and really get that you were having a very successful business and you were still dealing with not feeling well, which so many of us do. We think if we just get that right relationship, if we just make enough money, if we just get that new home or if we just move to that different city, then it'll all work out and that's the lie. So let's dive deep into the law of attraction because I think as a Doctor Divinity that teaches, I have a book coming out as well, and Oracle Cards on Universal Law, which is a law of attraction, which is law of attracts a very small, it's just one concept of what everything is. 
(11:10):
It's a very deep dive into it. And I think for me, probably you as well, I listen to The Secret, I put the manifesting thing up on the wall, I manifested about half of the stuff, and it all became millions of dollars and things and all that stuff. And then half of it I couldn't manifest. But regardless, I was still unfulfilled. I was still, it wasn't enough. And I thought manifesting was getting things <affirmative>. And we know that manifesting is you, that's what we call it, man, right? It's the you're the manifestation. What to manifest is the highest, most expressed, connected, loving you. All these things are never gonna fulfill us. And yes, we believe in prosperity, but what does it mean for you? What is your definition of the law of attraction? 
(11:55):
And I think I've got two parts to that answer definitely, because I fully, wholeheartedly agree with everything you said because that's actually why I wrote my second book Positively Wealthy, because I'd gone along my manifestation journey for about three years at that point and I thought I'd manifested it all. I'd manifested everything off my vision board. So you'd think that would be great, Emma, congratulations. Amazing. You're great at this. Fantastic. But I felt, and I remember this really heavy moment, it was actually when I sold my couponing business, it was the final manifestation of my vision board. I'd got the relationship I dreamt of, I'd got the house that I dreamt of for this stage in my life. Obviously when kids come along, it's a bit different and things like that. Career success book deals, everything. I got it all. And then when I sold my business, that was my final sort of manifestation I'd put on there. 
(12:43):
So I thought, that's it. Like you've got everything now Emma. And I remember that money hitting the bank account and it was a really nice amount of money that was gonna set me up, help me buy a house, all these amazing things. And I sat there and I was like, You feel exactly the same as you did 10 minutes ago. You're the same Emma. And that gaping big void in your chest that is so loud and you feel so unfulfilled is still there. And that's what I realized. I've been manifesting all wrong. This is not my version of wealth. I thought that career validation, success book deals money. I thought that was what wealth was because that's what Western society taught me. Wealth was. 
(13:25):
Yeah. Yes. But good. Amen. Can we please just have a moment of you guys? Are you beginning to get this no status, no book deal, No standing in front of 10,000 people on stage, no amount of money in the bank account, no relationship, nothing is going to fulfill you. Thank you so much for your store. Keep going. Cause so good. So good girl. Oh girl. Yeah. Love this. 
(13:55):
So I just think it really opened my eyes to what wealth meant and that actually wealth can mean so many different things. And actually my version of wealth was in a piece having a family and a loving partner, and that was my version of wealth at that point. And that can change and grow and evolve over time. And not everybody's version of wealth is gonna be the same, definitely not for some people it may be career, it may be money, it may be something like that, but only we can answer that for ourselves. So that really opened my eyes to how I was manifesting wrong <laugh>. But in terms of what I believe manifestation is, like you said, it's one of the seven energetic laws of the universe. And I believe that the law of attraction or the law of vibration is officially called. It's very much attracts. 
(14:38):
So we are faced with a big gigantic universal mirror. So how we show up to the universe, how we show up to that mirror is what is reflected back to us. So it's the notion that we can create our reality through our thoughts, our words, our actions, our energy. But I actually think that energy trumps all. Because a lot of people when they manifest, I get dms all the time about this era and they say, I've had a negative thought today, Emma, I'm so worried it's gonna manifest. How do I stop thinking this thought? And it's just not that simple. And I love your work because me, you're very much, it's one law guys, there's 
(15:10):
More <laugh>. So this is one of the questions I had years ago that I dance with and go, I had to really make peace of understanding this fully. So I'm curious to know your thoughts on this because one of the dear friends I grew up with was like, well, if we attract or we are creating, how does a baby that's born to a crack addict mother, how are they manifesting that? And I think it's a really important thing because people have to understand, first of all, we're one. So that crack baby is not just individually creating, that is the sum total of what's been created on this planet. And part of the good and bad is having a crack mother that has a baby and does that baby have a single thought to create that note? The one thought is created with the one mind and that it's an out picture of everything. 
(15:58):
So the law of attraction is such a deep, deep, profound, profound thing. It's not like I'm gonna think one thing and then that's gonna manifest that. Yes, it's looking to the beliefs, looking to the veil and looking through whatever that filter is. And you're gonna say, if I'm not enough, you're always gonna find the evidence of I'm not enough. But I think it's such an important thing because I think so many people are into this western world of love attraction. I'm gonna get the jet, I'm gonna get the fancy this, I'm gonna have the boyfriend, I'm gonna da da. That is not, that's why people don't like the industry. That's why they look down upon it is because it's not shallow like that. And the people that are in that way of manifesting are gonna get a rude awakening when they come to the dead end of, Holy cow, I'm still not fulfilled. I have millions of dollars or whatever. And it's really an important, very important conversation for us as leaders to have for people. So it's amazing. Yeah, so good. I love it. So go on. So I'm like on the side of my seat right now. I love your story so much. 
(16:57):
Yeah, and I think just to extend on what you said a little bit there as well, I think there are a lot of old school teachings of law, of attraction that feel very outdated and feel just not really great if I'm honest. Because a lot of, I've had people say to me, Emma, this terrible situation happened to me and old school teachers and telling me that I manifested that, but that just doesn't feel right. And of course we have to take accountability for our life. Like my relationships I was in, for example, I chose to be in those toxic relationships. I was a active participant in that. There was a part of me that absolutely reflected toxicity as well at that point, a million percent. But at the same time, what happened to me as a child, no, I did not manifest that. Absolutely not. 
(17:42):
And I've had people come in my dms before who were huge law of assumption advocates. And again, I'm not educated in the law of assumption. It's not something I particularly teach upon or know tons about. So I don't tend to dive into that. But they'll come into my IDMs and say, Emma, you're wrong because we manifest everything. And I said, If you can honestly wholeheartedly sit there and tell me that a child is manifesting, being abused, I think we're on the different pages there. I cannot subscribe to that. And I don't believe in any way, shape, or form that is true. What I do believe manifests is our consistent vibrations. So as I gave that example from experiencing trauma myself in my childhood and growing up, that consistent vibration was there, manifesting those not so great relationships and was my level of that was definitely not there. That was then attracting those relationships, which didn't respect me. That self worth wasn't there. But when I went through the inner work and realized that and took the action, I'm not manifesting that now. So I think manifestation is a really deep conversation because I think on the surface level where everyone wants to think, oh, it's just as believe receive, but it's just not that same. It's not as black and white sometimes. So 
(18:52):
We would teach this that it would be karma of what happened, meaning that it's a sum total of everything that's been created. We believe you are your parents, you are your grandparents. So it's all the creation that's been created in including that abuse. So karma is yes, and you'd say that's manifests through the karma, but manifestation from a standpoint of law of attraction is yes, you could change your vibration and heal yourself and break the lineage and not take abuse anymore. But we are created, we've created everything in the universe, the same source that created you, created the good things and created the bad things. There's no difference. It's one source, one cause. But manifestation people consider that you're either manifesting or not. We're manifesting 24 7 no matter what we do, which is really fascinating. You know what I mean? Yeah. So we believe you manifest everything we are, we're manifesting the war in uk. We are one with everything. So I think it depends on the level of where you wanna take responsibility and manifestation and the responsibility that comes with that. But I think it's good to have differences and play with it and kind of debate it and whatever it is. And for each individual, they can come up with their own truth and they can go even further down the rabbit hole if they choose. Absolutely. 
(20:01):
Absolutely. And things unfold so differently for every single person. Every single person's got a different personal history, different things that they've experienced. And I think, again, with manifestation, there's this, I guess again, these old school notions of everybody starting off at the same place, but technically they're not because my traumas gonna be different to your traumas error and your self-worth, maybe different to my self worth. So I think it's again, acknowledging that it's not a race, it's not a competition, it's your personal journey with manifestation. And 
(20:33):
Were one, and you and I are one. Yeah, 
(20:35):
Yeah, exactly. And you have the power to create that healing, to embrace that piece. And before I went along my, in a work journey, I knew nothing about ancestral trauma, I knew nothing about family constellations, I knew nothing about that. And it's so interesting as I went along that journey of mother line healing, father line healing, looking at family constellation sessions, just how much had been passed down my mother line. I mean, it was wild and it made absolute sense at the same time. 
(21:07):
I love that. But I think there's a really important distinction here for me is that no matter where you are in your leadership, that there's, you can always help people no matter where you're at. And for some people, they're not ready to go as far, It's okay to just say, I take responsibility for what I'm perceiving and what my beliefs are and what my vibration is and how it's going. And then you can expand even out to knowing the oneness. And it's beautiful. All of it's beautiful. I think just the inquiry of it is so beautiful. And I think it's so cool because I found no matter if somebody's, I have friends that are just in the health kind of coaching and they find, well, I can only help my clients so much. At some point in time I have to start doing the deeper spiritual work. 
(21:50):
It, it's almost like the road always leads to one place, which is that deep, deep soul work and limited beliefs. And of course, which is the vibration. Knowing that the identity creates the beliefs, which creates the thoughts, the feelings, emotions, and the circumstances of our life. But the belief, when I know I'm one, when I know, I know I'm one with Emma, I know I'm one with everything, and my ability to manifest creates everything in this universe. And I also have to take responsibility. So I can't blame my ex, I can't blame just the Iranian whatever's going on. I can't blame anyone. It's impossible because I know this one source is creating everything. And if somebody bothers me, then I have to take respons by. So it's amazing. It's such an incredible, I'm so grateful for the law of attraction for all the aspects of it. <affirmative>. So then tell me about it. So you have this five step of the law of attraction. Tell me about that. 
(22:46):
So as I went along my man of station journey, when I wrote my first book back in 2018, <affirmative> I realized that a lot of people get stuck. And a lot of people comment a message and dm, and we see it online all the time. And people saying, It doesn't work for me, it works for some people, but not for me, Emma, I don't understand why it's not working. So I thought, right, let's look at every single manifestation that I've manifested so far. What's worked? What was the formula? What really helps? What do I feel was useful? And I really felt in my soul that there was actually five steps, a law of attraction. And obviously I know lose people have different variations of seven steps, nine steps, all of these. So again, it's what resonates with you and what feels the most helpful and beneficial to you. 
(23:30):
But for me, it just really helps me to simplify and break down that process more to understand what actually goes into that belief step. What actually does it take to understand the law of attraction and identify which step that you are at. So the first step in my process is ask, which is the same as one of the traditional steps. And it's asking and setting your intentions. So asking the universe with clarity, because remember how you are showing up is what's reflected back. So if you want to manifest money, don't just say, I want some money. How much do you want? Be clear, be specific. What are you gonna spend that money on? Why do you want that money? Ask yourself these questions and ask that with all your desires. So once you've set your intention, then we move on to the second step, which is belief. 
(24:13):
Again, one of the traditional steps. And in this step I really believe this is where we do the inner work. This is where those beliefs come up, where the inner critic and ego is like, Hello, you are not worthy of this. We know that internal dialogue that happens. So in that belief step, yes, it's believing you're worthy and deserving of the universe bringing your desire to you, and that it can happen and you can manifest. But also it's looking at your limiting beliefs, fears, blockages, anything that is standing in between you and your desire. So it's very much an energetic step where you look at what is standing in between <affirmative> B and my desire. And I felt like the original description of believe just wasn't deep enough. I didn't explain how do I believe? How do I get there? Why may I not believe? 
(24:56):
So definitely I feel that inner work goes into step number two. Then step number three is a new step trust. And I added this step in because yes, it's trusting the process. Yes, it's trusting in divine timing, but in that trust step, it's almost like that leap of faith. Like you are meeting the universe halfway. So it's a co-creation process manifestation. So you go 50% universe meets you 50%, it's not 90 10, it's not 10 90, it's 50 50. So that trust step is almost you meeting the universe halfway, taking that leap of faith and putting yourself out there in the field of possibility and opportunity. So if you're wanting to manifest a career, for example, you're gonna put yourself out there, you're gonna put your CV or resume online, you're gonna put yourself out there on LinkedIn, get that outfit ready for the interviews and meetings you're gonna go to. 
(25:44):
So it's really you saying, I'm here, I'm ready to be seen universe, and I'm ready to take those steps, come and meet me halfway <affirmative>. And then the fourth step is, sorry, four, done that one fourth step is letting go and surrendering. So in this step, I feel is arguably probably one of the most important steps and something which I had never done a day in my life before, letting the lessons of letting go and surrendering <affirmative> and something I think people struggle with one of the hardest. Because again, it's like we're taught to ask and then believe and do all the inner work, then we're trusting, we're taking action, and now we just have to let it all go. We didn't even care about it in the first place. And I think people can get confused with that and think that it's giving up or that you're not bothered. 
(26:26):
And it's not like that at all. It's very much a case of getting present, expressing gratitude, letting go of your attachment. Again, it's that inner work of letting go and becoming at peace and allowing the universe to meet you halfway because you can have your 90%, which I definitely used to be, where we're like, We're gonna make it happen. We're gonna do everything. We're gonna go 90% of the way. And as we know, that just does not work in any way, shape, or form <affirmative>. So in that lesson, you're in surrendering stage. It's allowing, It is allowing and allowing yourself to be met by the universe. And then the fifth step is receive the same as one of the traditional steps. But again, receiving is an energy, and I think this isn't spoken about enough of how much do you allow yourself to get into the energetics of receiving especially as if any women are listening to this. 
(27:15):
But anybody listening, how often do you allow yourself to receive love, to receive support, to receive gifts, to receive money? And I think definitely one of my blocks was receiving because of the wounds that I had experienced in my life, especially from the masculine. So then receiving in any way, shape or form felt really awkward and a bit ooh to me. So I knew that that's why I was really struggling to receive abundance because I wasn't getting into that level or that energy of allowing myself to receive from everyone in my life or from work or from followers or whatever, <affirmative>. So definitely getting into the energetic of receiving is a good practice for self-care, but also good practice for manifesting too. 
(27:57):
I love that. I love all that. And I think the betas and so many things have taught us this work for eons. And I think it's interesting. The west we come up with, it's, these are things that have been taught forever. There's nothing new that you or or anyone are teaching that this is all wisdom that has in each and every person for sure. But I think it's interesting. I go through cycles myself as a leader in the manifestation. I tend to sometimes get more external, Let me get things, let me experience this experience or let me whatever. And I realize that every time I do that, it just is a road to misery. The message coming through spirit right now for me is you're either living in the inner world or you're living in the external world. And the moment that I look to the world for anything, I become totally unfulfilled. 
(28:51):
The only time I'm really fulfilled is when I ask how can I serve? And how can I only place my power in true God's source within and in that source? And in that, the manifestation world is beautiful. But I would say it's such a trap that without the awakening, without anything, I think that the clients that say, Hey, it doesn't work for me, it's because you don't even know what you truly desire. You're just going off whatever the world and the culture's told you. And it's not authentic what you truly desire that. So therefore you're not gonna, your soul's having you break down. Cause it doesn't give you what you want. It gives you what you need all day, everything you think you want. But if what you really need is healing and doing trauma work, it's gonna bring you more things to have trauma, to break you down, to have you surrender, to have to actually do the work. 
(29:38):
You know, may say, I want millions of dollars, but will you actually want is to break through prosperity consciousness and it's gonna take you going to a bankruptcy to surrender, to actually do the deep work, to be able to heal and have enough self-love to be able to be okay with or without money to actually be able to have it. So how we manifest is very different than just sitting and going, I want this, I'm gonna visualize it, whatever. It takes such deep, deep work. And it can never be the goal of getting anything external, because if that's your goal, then the universe is gonna show you how you cannot ever be fulfilled with things outside. So it's such a deep, deep conversation. And people wanna stay, Oh, I'm gonna manifest this and demonstrate it. You're the manifestation, the manifestation, not the things. This is not a manifestation. That's a demonstration. The demonstration of our life. And it's so important. So what do you feel like you manifested that is really fulfilling for you? 
(30:32):
And I love that you brought that up because I went on my friend's podcast a few weeks ago and he said that when you manifest on a healed space and aligned space, what you want changes entirely. And what you wanted at the beginning isn't what you want now. And I was like, Oh my God, yes, 100%. Because what I wanted six years ago, <laugh> is definitely what I don't want. I don't want that now. And it took through going through a really calm, again relationship during my love attraction journey to understand, right Emma, you don't probably know what's best for you. Let the universe bring to you what is for your highest good and let's do the inner work. Look, something's going on here to keep attracting those relationships. It's time to look within. And I think as well, it's difficult because I didn't know how to do that work. 
(31:22):
I didn't know that what shadow work was or inner work. I knew nothing of this before my journey. I knew about therapy and counseling, but I didn't know what had happened in my life to be able to even have those conversations or awareness with myself. So I feel like the inner work comes up gradually and for, well, that's my experience anyway, but it's not like a full blown boom. Sometimes spiritual awakens can be that, but I feel like I had my spiritual awaken of, come on, change your mindset, change around. And then I had the dark nights of the soul after that where it was like, Right, this isn't just about getting things, Emma, This isn't just about what can I get? How does this benefit me? Great. How is your manifestations impacting the collective? How is it impacting the whole planet, the whole collective? 
(32:09):
How is you manifesting 10,000, a hundred thousand million pounds, whatever? How is that affecting the collective as well? What can you do positively with that? So I feel like from, if we'd had that conversation three years ago, I would've been like, Yeah, Erin, I've manifested everything from an alarm space, <affirmative>. And you'd probably thought, Yeah, it looks like it. Emma <laugh>, your energy says <laugh>. But at that point, I generally did believe that. But then as I went along, that relationship and again, felt so unfulfilled. And again, the wounds came up and the patterns repeated. Now here, three years later, having written the book, having lived that journey page for page practice for practice, to be able to write that book, definitely I see things from a whole new perspective of, wow, I actually know myself. I didn't know myself before a tour. It felt like 
(33:01):
Very amazing. 
(33:02):
So I know who I am now, and that's the biggest result of all of it. 
(33:07):
It's the greatest thing to manifest, right? <laugh>. Right. And knowing myself, know myself, and know the whole entire universe. Right, exactly. 
(33:15):
So I felt like even from that huge healing of just like, wow, I've returned home to myself. There's peace within me. I feel peace. I love that. Then everything else was easy. And manifesting a happy relationship felt like as easy as breathing, manifesting my lovely dog into my life, who brings so much unconditional love, felt easy manifesting in my business. Now easy. And that doesn't mean challenges don't arise, we're human life ebbs and flows. But for me it's felt so much easier because I'm like, Ah, this is what it is meant to feel like this is what happiness is meant to feel like. And this is my nervous system is meant to be calm, and I can live anxiety and depression for you. So I think for me to summarize that is the happiness and peace is the biggest, most aligned manifestation. 
(34:08):
So fascinating. I think this is such an important conversation. And I just saw this great interview and they were talking about success, successful people. And the world has told us successful people have millions of dollars or have status or whatever. And they were saying that their commonality of successful people, it's not that they wake up early or they do X, Y, and Z habits. The commonality of successful people is that they actually think they're deserving. They think they're actually better than others. They believe that they have basically a total tenacity to believe that they can get millions of dollars. And I think it's such a fascinating thing cuz what happened for me is I did the same thing. I manifested millions of dollars, jets a really incredible lifestyle, and I was completely unfulfillment inside. And so over the course of the years of working with celebrities and CEOs, one of the things I've found is that the trauma happens the same way. 
(35:04):
You can have a trauma that makes you limited. It can make you believe you're not worthy of having success and sabotage your success. A trauma also can make you believe that I'm gonna win. I'll show you. So we have this extreme, one extreme of people that can't manifest at all. They're like, something's wrong with me. And the other people can manifest all this stuff, but it's out of a complete divided kind of sick, mentally sick lifestyle. So actually some of the healthiest people I know have very simple lives. They make a decent income, they have good relationships, they have peace in their life, but they're not trying to have everything. So it's such an interesting thing. And I think as leaders, we go through this, what really matters. And it's like, I realize some of my success was definitely built out of trauma. There's no question. 
(35:54):
And then you're like, Why am I doing this? Why do I really wanna do this? And you redefine it, and you redefine it, and then you keep having success. Cause it's part of your nature and part of your creative factor. But I just wanna say thank you for all your work. And it's really, I think your story's really, really important for people to hear. I really do. I think especially you're a young woman, you have a lot of women that follow you, They're gonna look at you, they're gonna say, Is she gonna tell me become the next seven figure coach? Or is she gonna say, Hey, find what really your specific relative truth is? Because ultimate truth is we're all one, we're immortal, all powerful. But a relative truth is really important to birth because what works for you and what brings you peace is very different than me. And it's so important. And I just wanna say thank you for, I know you've worked hard, man, everything you've done, there's no joke. Okay, I'm sure you've been through a lot. And so what is it that you want the audience? What is the one thing? What's the one thing you want them to know right now? 
(36:55):
I actually wanna touch upon what you said about the seven figure 
(36:58):
Thing. Ok. 
(36:58):
Just because I love that you said that because I think it's so refreshing and definitely throughout my journey, I had those goals of Six Figure Coach, all these things. And I think it's so natural in the industry when that's the buzz words, We're on nine Figure Coach now I think it is, or something. And you just think, Wow, I'm just exhausted reading all of that, 
(37:19):
Reading it, 
(37:20):
<affirmative>, <laugh>. But I got asked that recently on an Instagram q and a, and this lady was like I really wanna manifest a six figure business. How do I do it, Emma, what do I do? And I said this, my best advice, this may not be everybody's advice, but my advice to you is don't manifest a sex vigor business. Manifest a business that likes your soul up manifest a business that serves and helps people and feels so joyful to you every day that it doesn't even feel like work. And that you're manifesting aligned clients who are happy and they're getting amazing results. And I realized that along my journey, that again, when I was redefining my version of wealth, I was chasing money, chasing sales, chasing six figures actually, when I scrapped all of that and had no figure goal, but instead was like, Okay, I want to help these people do this, or this is how I want to show up. 
(38:13):
Or actually, I've just birthed the most aligned amazing course that feels so good. The money was an absolute byproduct. Wow, I didn't even need to think about it. And of course, it's healthy to set goals and have those things. I'm not saying don't set a goal, but it's really looking at your motive behind the goal. So instead of being like, How can I get something? How is that work actually gonna, you know, could have a six figure business and be miserable, be burnt out? And that was definitely me a few years ago. So again, you could have, as we've said, you could have all that success and be so unfulfilled and think, Oh, is this what six figures feels like? That doesn't feel good? Or you could create something which feels so good to you, so good to your nervous system, great to your clients, your creating and doing amazing things. And this goes even if you don't have a business. 
(39:04):
I see. 
(39:05):
And the money and everything is a byproduct because that's just the result of the amazing things that you've done. So you don't even need to worry about that when you have the awesomeness in the business, 
(39:17):
As Gary V says, 8 million people. We need to redefine what success is <affirmative>. And I think as leaders, we, especially people look to us to go, What is success? And I wanna say, I'm so grateful for you coming to this. I'm so grateful for me coming to this. I'm so grateful that the more we can have the conversation for people to just please be true to your heart, you know, can have so much less and be so much more happier. Money's not the be all end all. And money's gonna come anyway if you do what you want. Yeah, yeah. Oh my gosh, it's so great. So tell everybody where they can find your new book, where they can find you. 
(39:53):
Cool. So my new book Hurt Healing Heald, which is Release Limiting Beliefs, Spheres and Blocks to Supercharge Your Manifestation is out now worldwide in ebook audiobook and paperback from anywhere that sells books. So wherever you get your books, you'll be able to find them like Amazon Barns and Noble Waterstones, all places like that. And you can find me on my website, emma mumford.code.uk, and on Instagram, Facebook, and ev pretty much everywhere at I am Emma Mumford. 
(40:19):
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Danielle LaPorte is a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100 a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” 

The former director of a future studies think tank in Washington, DC, where she managed a team creating global scenarios. She now speaks about the intelligence of the heart. 

Her most recent book, How To Be Loving…when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an Audiobook + ebook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is also the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support.

Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leadership Program with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses.

Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay what you choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com.

Marianne Williamson refers to Danielle “as a bright light.” V (formerly known as Eve Ensler) calls her “a force field of energy, wonder, humour, and love.” 

Her charities of choice are Ally Global Foundation, helping survivors of human trafficking to rebuild their lives (@allyglobal), Trees Sisters’ reforestation projects (@treesisters_official), and VDay, a movement to end violence against women and girls (vdayorg). 

HOW TO BE LOVING

When you turn to the heart, you uncondition your mind of all kinds of social programming.

The intelligence of Love dissolves eons of dogma that tells us to prove our “worth” and sort who’s superior or inferior.

Spirituality is really the practice of thinking with Love. And we can effectively train ourselves to keep returning to Love via our thoughts over and over again. 

Being Loving doesn’t necessarily mean feeling more. It means feeling everything with more Love. 

It’s the ultimate inclusiveness. Because in your heart, it’s ALL IN—your light and your shadows—and everyone else’s. This is the non-dual place where complete Self acceptance has room to grow.  

This call for gentleness is counterculture. And it’s what we’re yearning for. We do not need to focus on “fixing” ourselves. As we focus on living from our heart center, anything that’s not in alignment with that Light falls away. 

How To Be Loving is a nuanced perspective on the life changing power of Self Compassion, shadow work, and being more receptive to Higher Guidance. This is a guide on how to use the genius of your heart to create conditions for healing.

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TRANSCRIPTIONS:

(00:00):
In today's world, there can be completely stressful times. Isolation, dysfunction, cancel culture, divided viewpoints, polarized news being driven into our consciousness everywhere. Well, today I want to share a very special guest with you on learning how to become loving. Let's dive deep into what does it mean you guys? How are we gonna do this? How do we actually be loving in the midst of all of this divided, polarized, fear, hate, and all the above? Welcome to the Dr. Erin podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity. I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are, and I believe in you. Together, we're awakening the world. 
(01:11):
Hi, my soul family. I'm super excited to share a very special guest with you today, Danielle Laport. She is a member of Oprah's Super Soul 100 Group. Danielle is a creator of the heart centered membership in the Heart centered Leadership program with over 400 leaders and 30 countries hosting conversations, circles, retreats, and workshops of all kinds of communities and businesses around the world. But who she really is, for me is somebody who is steeped in love, really truly committed to divine work to the world. I'm super excited to dive deep with this soul sister today to really discover and inquiry into how do we love even deeper. So how are you? I'm so excited to just dive deep and feel into your heart. You know, I watch you online, I know you through many of my peers and girlfriends and stuff, And the thing about you, Danielle, is that when I watch anything, your story, anything, I feel like I'm home. I really authentically feel like that. I'm like, ugh, I feel like I can exhale when I come into your presence, which is really says a lot about who you are as a leader, and I'm sure it's taken you some time to fully ground into all of it. How are you? Mm-hmm. 
(02:26):
<affirmative>, I feel really calm right now. Like it's this, um, it's more glide than grind. 
(02:34):
Yeah. 
(02:36):
And you know, this is, we're in a book campaign. This is like birth mode, birth and promote mode. And it feels, I'm aware more this time of just, uh, thought forms. Like really, this will be as easy as I think it will be. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 
(02:56):
Totally. Totally. So let's dive into this because you know how to be loving, like, let's, this is challenging right now in this world. I, I don't, I mean, I don't know. I think that as we know, the universe is expanding all points in time and I do believe the frequencies are getting more intense. And then we have social media, which is amplifying everything. I, I mean we have this polarity that is just off the charts from the cancel culture to, you know, every viewpoint to everything going on. How in the world do we be loving in the midst of all this? Mm. 
(03:34):
You have to want to be. So I think it starts with that. Like, um, I think now is the time to choose a side, but you choose the side that includes everybody. It's like, you know, uh, so this is your free will. You're gonna use your self agency to play for love, to be more compassionate. All those things that we know love our, but it's a choice. Like, we have to start there. This is Choicefulness. 
(04:04):
Yeah. Yeah. I remember back, I used to be very codependent back in the day. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. And I remember someone asked me, What is your definition of love? And I had all these different, you know, conversations of what it should be. And then someone said, Love just is, this was like a long time ago. And I was like, Whoa, that's like so deep. You know, <laugh>. And it's like, 
(04:25):
Whoa, what does that mean? 
(04:27):
Yeah. What does that mean? Right. But then of course, as you know, getting developed and all the work and diving so deep into divine and having our own revelations and enlightenment, there's such moments of oneness. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, but then human beingness comes in as well. So what is it about this book? What is it for you? What does it mean to you writing this book? 
(04:51):
Well, it feels like a love letter to the part in all of us who know that love is actually the game changer. And it's time to start acting like that. That love isn't just something we do when we're at home or with our friends or our family. It's something we need to do in how we design politics and educational systems and medical systems. Like it needs to be included in the highest levels mm-hmm. <affirmative> of society. And it's time to stop leaving it at the door. When we walk into different environments, like, and this means our language shifts. We use the words <laugh>, we show up with our compassionate vocabulary. It means our tone is different. It means we prioritize differently. It means we get in touch with a holy anger instead of the ego anger that just wants to be right. Like that our, you know, all the justice that everybody's so many of us are seeking for and choosing sides about that really, it's about like, what's gonna benefit everybody that takes daring and courage and it's like complex conversation, but it only works if it benefits everybody. Or at the very least, if you're aware of how your decisions in your community and your workplace and your vote with your dollar, All of the things, even with in your own family, how you're gonna cause harm or how you're gonna benefit all the players at the table or find, you know, get everybody to the table to start with. But, which 
(06:29):
Brings up a really important point. So you talk a lot about, you know, the desire and I think that we've been so driven off of desire and goals and really playing into a vision of embodiment maybe the whole time. But then we go to this place of virtue I've heard you speak about, which I think is really the paradigm, the biggest paradigm we're going through as a, as a globe, as one family, as a unity that we are of like, how do we go from really producing cuz we have to survive going to virtue. And and what does that mean? Because we're, I mean I know I've gone through the hustle phase of my career and getting burned out and, and going through all that and then going, what am I actually doing if I'm not enjoying this process mm-hmm. <affirmative>, then I'm completely outta my own principles. Mm-hmm <affirmative>. So what does it look like for you? Let's just take a particular case. Let's pretend somebody's out there, they've gone through some dysfunctional relationships cuz nine outta 10 people go through dysfunctional relationships, right? Maybe they're dealing with money issues and maybe they need to go out and go into sales to try and make it happen. How do I live virtuously and actually get something done? 
(07:43):
You have to look at the origin of desire. So Buddhism teaches that desire is a cause of suffering. So it's the clinging, it's the wanting things to be the way they aren't desire is an emotion. Emotions come from the unconscious self. So it's not the conscious part of ourselves that's wanting, cuz when you, when you're more conscious, we're awake, enlightened, not that any of us have gotten there, but when you move towards that, you know, higher vibration, you're gonna want for less, you'll be more present with what you have. Nervous system will be much more regulated. So you're not hooked. You know, it's not the hungry ghost that's driving you. So the evolution of desire is I think aspiration. So I'm not, I'm not wanting, needing, striving. I like go crush my goals so that I feel more worthy and get the love I never got from whoever I needed it from. 
(08:44):
I'm aspiring, I'm using, you know, we talked about free will earlier. I'm using my free will to align with a higher way of being. So you can still want all the things, you can still wanna crush your sales goals and you can still wanna of course make a difference in the world, but it's on behalf of loving kindness. It's for benefiting everybody. So you go from like kind lower vibe, wanting and doing whatever you gotta take to get it. And those do or die goals, which you're gonna burn your adrenal system. You're gonna wake up one day and go, Why have I been running to, you know what? I'm setting an intention from my heart, from the my most conscious place, from my center to embody love in all I do. Okay. That's clear. You send a clear signal <laugh> to all systems, you will think differently. Yeah. You will go after different things. You'll go after them in a different way. Mm-hmm. 
(09:50):
<affirmative>. So I wanna get vulnerable here. I consider you a peer and you know, we're both in the world doing work and stuff And one of the things that I think has been shocking in, in doing this work for me was I didn't realize some of the challenges that were gonna come along with it. And, and not to bring up anything that other than total respect for you, but I remember one of the first times I heard about you and, and you were getting kind of like a cancel culture type of a thing happening around one of your other books. And I remember thinking I had so much respect for you cuz I thought that would be really hard. But you handled it so beautifully and so powerfully. And I, and I have always remembered that in the moment when I was going through something and with, with clients and cuz we know we can't please all clients and we can be as loving as possible and think we're doing everything in harmony and think we're just, you know, fulfilling upon contracts and someone can think we're the worst person in the world or view and take it differently than we intended mm-hmm. 
(10:47):
<affirmative>. And so I just wanna speak to that because I think there's people out there because you can be as loving as possible, but someone may not think you're being loving mm-hmm. <affirmative> and they're gonna be totally offended by no matter what you do, you can have the greatest intentions and be loving and want the highest for everyone, but there's always gonna be people that see you as as not that 
(11:09):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. Mm-hmm <affirmative>. You cannot control what anybody else thinks or feels or does. Uh, we're all unhealed, everybody is carrying some degree of trauma around with them. We are living at a time where it's just getting, it's just, just projection festival <laugh>. Um, and that's helped me. I mean that my awareness of my own wounds and that kind of self intimacy has helped me meet things more gently without being pulled off my center. Like I know my intentions, I know the conversations I have with my heart. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, I, I know where my fears are as much as I can be conscious right now and I'm gonna abide in that I'm gonna have some patience for other people's wounds and opinions. Mm-hmm. <affirmative> and not always easy, but that's it. And also I think, you know, just seeing, I think especially with women on the personal development path, it a here's the irony. 
(12:21):
It gets harder to see everybody as our reflection. Like I just think, oh yeah, the universal principle at everybody's, my reflection that applies except for there's no way that guy and that behavior, that narcissism or that manipulation, whatever, that is not a reflection of me because I've done so much work. I'm so much more loving and compassionate. All part of that may be true. I may be more loving and compassionate. I may have done a lot of work, but it's a universal law I believe. So I have to look at where's my call out culture within me, Where's my tyranny? Where's my greed? Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. And it may be just a tiny little seed frequency, like a little spec. Or it may be that what they're bringing up for me, the reflection is not so much their behavior, but the pain that they have put on the table that has been triggered in me. It's like, oh, this really feels like a massive betrayal. Mm oh well then I have some betrayal wound that isn't healed yet because I'm, because I've created this. Yeah. And because I'm so triggered by it, I have to respond to it. 
(13:32):
I always think it like, yeah. Like it's like the facts actually happening where, you know, there is a cause and effect and sometimes there's law that comes into it. Sometimes there's putting boundaries, sometimes there's just forgiveness, whatever that is. But I think the difference for me, where I used to be reactive or take things so personal, you can go through a storm, but you're like, I'm in a storm. Okay, cool. How do we handle this? How do we take cover? How do we deal with this? Versus oh my gosh, I'm in a storm and let me just get completely reactive with everything and take offense to it. Mm-hmm. 
(14:05):
<affirmative>, I had a friend who was in a storm, she's in a legal situation with somebody who was a business was dissolving. And you know, I'd read some of the emails going back and forth and you could hear all the hooks and that were coming at her and she was, she was taking the bait every time she'd be like, Well, let me explain this and I'm not gonna explain, explain that. And I said, You know what, if you just gave it zero more energy. Yes. Like it's happening. You're gonna, if you have to go to court, you go to court, you're not in denial, but it just like, stop taking the bait so that not just so you can, you know, piss the other person off because it will not, not feeding, you know, their own ego stuff to fight, but so that you can concentrate on the lesson and actually get through it. Yeah. Like they wanna fight. It's bringing up all these issues around you, about your overgiving and feeling on the outside. Just deal with those issues of overgiving and feeling on the outside mm-hmm. <affirmative> while you give the rest of the drama that's just serving to kick it up. Zero more energy. Yeah. You go heal. Let them just off gas. 
(15:18):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. So good. So good. And you are teaming up with one of my all time mentors, um, Michael Beckwith I love. Oh yeah. Yes. You're church. So tell us a little bit about church. 
(15:31):
Ah, well church is gonna be, um, an online event to our online event on Sunday, October 16th. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. And if you go grab a couple copies of how to Be Loving you, come to our site, danielle port.com/how to Be Loving, Let us know you got some copies and then we give you a ticket to church. Leanne Rhymes is gonna open up with, um, singing from her new album God's Work, which is amazing and beautiful course is gonna be there to sing. Amazing. And then Reverend Beckwith is gonna give us a 
(16:03):
Blessing. Yes, Yes. How to be loving. I think it's one of the greatest masteries we can do no matter what's happening, no matter how our families acting or the politicians are acting or whatever mm-hmm. <affirmative>, how do we stay in that neutral space and holding that. And I think it's important for people to know what you're still able to do in that. Like, can you still Right, You can still have your truth, you can still put boundaries, you can still even go do, you know, saying goodbye to somebody, you can still love them. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. So years ago when I went through the final chapter of my codependency, the thing that held it after was thinking that I didn't love him. That he was a narcissist, he was this, he was that. All that, what finally healed it from me is when I actually realized that I'll always love him and then I love him now and I'll always love him. And it actually was the one thing that released the resistance to it because it was the truth. 
(17:04):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, that's beautiful. I think we, there's so much shame, especially in that dynamic, you know, and empathic sensitive woman with a narcissistic male, which seems to be like a dance that a lot of people do these days. Um, I think there's all this shame that comes in with, we let ourselves be treated like that. We perpetuated that dynamic and then we get more conscious and we go a little bit deeper and say, we actually brought this in. We facilitated that 
(17:36):
A thousand percent. 
(17:37):
We are 50% of that dynamic. We are no more high vibration necessarily than they are. So there's this like, there's this embarrassment and that shame prevents us from going to that place of like, even though they did all these things, I will always love them even though I wasn't totally conscious and mature, I will always love them. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. And I think that's actually the heart's default. Yeah. And it doesn't mean you are gonna continue with codependency. It doesn't mean that you're not awake. It means that you got it, you actually got the lesson. Yeah. 
(18:13):
Yeah. You take a hundred percent responsibility and realize he was just, you know, part of my belief systems tracking in that I'm not lovable, you know? Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, just playing into the whole, the whole grand thing is play of life. Yeah. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. So, so what, what is your mission with this book? Like truly what, obviously you wanna help people love, but like what is it for you mm-hmm. <affirmative>, what is the virtue for you? 
(18:38):
Uh, the book is about reverence and it's about going beyond tolerating your own stuff to actually being revent with it. Like, there's some awe for your doubt and your anxiety and your fear, and you can see how it's expanding you and how, you know, every time my doubt shows up, I say, Well, you are persistent. That's amazing and thank you. You help me double down on my faith so I can only have respect for such a great outcome. Right? 
(19:13):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. 
(19:15):
So it's a reverence for the shadow and it's that reverence that creates more light. That's how you find the diamond in the darkness. 
(19:23):
I love that. I love the concept that life is like a masterclass. And I love this concept of thinking like everything is challenged me to love. 
(19:30):
Yes. 
(19:31):
Everything is the opportunity to unconditionally love mm-hmm. <affirmative> and like, wow. Then you look at there's no problems, there's no, there's nothing. There's just, it's all growing me. It's all expanding me, 
(19:42):
It's all fertilizer. Yeah. 
(19:44):
<laugh>, it's all fertilizer. I love them. Yeah. So, awesome. So I wanna ask you a couple other things. So, so I just wanna know just a little bit deeper, what were the hardest things that you went through earlier when you weren't able to just love? Who were you? Who was that? You know? 
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Um, well I've always been a lover and a relat. Like I've always, relationships have been my way of growing. That was clear. I think how my lack of consciousness showed up was just a little mouthier, a little boulder, a little more assertive, brazen, which was just a lot of ego wanting to help me be seen. And then you wise up a bit and you get softer and you do the job. Like I see myself, I see myself, it's my job to see me, my shadow and my light, my um, my dark side and my loveliness mm-hmm. <affirmative> and then the ego starts to chill out a little more. I don't, you know, it's not saying, ah, go say that thing at that party. You know, <laugh>, I'm not so concerned about how many likes I get on a post, you know? Uh, 
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Maybe not as much, but I 
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Not as much 
(21:04):
For sure. It's interesting how what people perceive love to be, you know, because someone can love you more than someone else and they may not stay in the tone that you consider loving, but they may love you more than anybody else. And and I think that that's been a, a growth for me because I literally love, like, I love people so much. I love my clients, I love my community and sometimes I can be brass, but, and so it could be interpreted as not, but I really, really 
(21:32):
Do. It's such a great saying, brass. It really does. It's like it conveys Yeah. <laugh>. I get it. 
(21:38):
Yeah. Yeah. So tell people about your other events. You have live events right now, right? 
(21:43):
There's lots happening. I mean, really Instagram is like the center of my world. Everything is pointing towards the Sunday church on October 16th. Yeah. 
(21:54):
Okay, cool. Well, I cannot wait to be there and celebrate you. And it's gonna be honor, honor a divine woman and just, you know, really getting how spiritual and how deep and how evolved. And I consider you completely lightened. You may not, but I do. So I just want you to know that I see 
(22:09):
You. I'll tell, I'll tell my publisher. Maybe I'll get a bigger book event. 
(22:13):
<laugh>, I see you. I see you. Okay. Cause we can't say that, but you, come on. I see you. Okay. So tell people also, of course they know your social media stuff, but just tell them where they can find you on your website. 
(22:25):
Yeah. I'm at Danielle Laport on social and website is danielle laport.com. I have a membership called Heart Centered Membership. It's a spiritual support community and I have a coaching facilitating program called Heart Centered Leadership Program. So we've got like 400 coaches and leaders like in the workplace and in yoga studios teaching about virtue and resilience. Yeah, it's really cool. 
(22:52):
So let's dive deep just for one more second around trauma. So in our community we teach a lot of trauma work and how the subconscious mind is connected with divine mind and universal law and how trauma's not necessarily what happens to you, but trauma is what happens within you. And the moment that we have a frequency of, of putting a meaning on something, we create a fr a frequency and we decide a divided perspective. I'm not lovable, something's wrong with me, I'm not enough, I don't wanna live. And it literally tags the DNA that genetics and makes an Ingram. Okay. So what would you say to somebody that is trying to love, but they have a lot of trauma, you know, what advice would you give them if they haven't began to do their trauma work? What would you tell 'em? 
(23:36):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, I think ultimately it's about what I would call truthful identification. That you're seeing that you are an energetic being, a spiritual being, um, that you have a consciousness that goes beyond what's happened to you and you're not the trauma, you're not the trauma. We are not what happened to us. And that, I mean, you could look at that and go, that's a spiritual bypass. It's actually, it's total empowerment. So when you see that you are not what happened to you, then you can really go deep and look at the impacts of what happened to you, what it did to your nervous system, how it affected your life and your choices, and all those patterns that got put into place. And then I think eventually, ideally we gotta move on from the trauma. So I mean, this is one of the things I talk about and how to be loving is that so many of us can like do the work. 
(24:32):
We do the breathing and we do the tapping, and we do the workshops and we do all the right things and we are actually like legit healing. But then there's that part of us, there's that little unhealed bit, the ego mind that wants to dig it up and we keep telling the same story. Like the trauma just gets so baked into our identity. Like, I'm an addict, I'm a survivor, I am a, you know, you kind of fill in the blank. You're not just that. It's a, that was an incident that created a, you know, major effect. So this is why I, you know, I've had thousands of hours of therapy, lots of different kinds of therapy, lots of different types of spiritual work, energy work, and it, and I can see now the shadow side of therapy as well. And I credit my psychotherapist with just like changing my life, saving my life. If I had five children, they'd have, I would name them all after my various strengths, you know? Um, but there's a time where you need to say, okay, like, enough of going down this path because you're just retraumatizing yourself. Mm. Uh, just yeah. The, the rewinding 
(25:51):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. I love that. So I'm hearing you say, you know, basically, which is the truth is we're not these bodies, we're not our beliefs, we're not our trauma. We're something way beyond that. We're the crater, you know, creating with one with the universe and that we can really just witness our story, witness the experience, witness all that, and at least get some type of a insight around that. 
(26:12):
Yeah. And move into seeing your capacity to heal it like you are capable of restoration. Mm-hmm. <affirmative> happens all the time. People get to the other side of trauma all the time and they're wiser and, um, more resilient because of it. 
(26:34):
I love that. Do it. I love that. Okay. I have to ask you one last question for the most important question. Where did you get those glasses? Like we all, Cause we love the glasses so much, so I'm like, we, I'll buy em some right now. Thank They're so good. Uh, these are Chanel. Yeah, they're beautiful. You're stunning woman inside and out. So thank you so much for sharing your heart with me. Really beautiful and very excited for the world to get more of you. Beautiful. You sure you guys, And go follow her. Go to this event, go to church. We wanna go to church, right? It's a whole new realm of church in the world these days, and this is absolutely where we need to be in the heart. So thank you so much. Have a beautiful and blessed day. Again, You guys live your truth. 
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