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This is

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Live from Los Angeles. Welcome to the Dr. Aaron show. We're all about manifestation transformation and breakthroughs. It's time to claim your birthright of prosperity, vitality and love. So grab your tea coffee, because together we're awakening the world. May you live your truth?

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Welcome divine legends. Oh my gosh. If you are somebody who is dealing with needing to set boundaries, you definitely want to listen to this podcast and watch this video. I have so much experience on those. You guys, you have no idea coming from being someone who is completely co-dependent and dysfunctional years back and mastering how to create boundaries, how to hold boundaries and still being tested, being tested, being tested, and working with, you know, hundreds of women, uh, in our community and thousands of women's hundreds of thousands of women across the globe. I just wanna say that this is very normal and natural to be trying to figure out how to create boundaries. So I'm Dr. Aaron, I'm a doctor divinity, founder of new thought global and society and teaching universal law, metaphysics of mind, science of mind, and how our subconscious mind gets reprogrammed through E four trauma method and all of our different modalities that we teach and certify all of our spiritual coaches, practitioners, law of attraction ministers, and yes, doctors of divinity.

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So let's break this on down. You guys boundaries how to create healthy boundaries, how to live your truth, how to truly, truly be able to not make people wrong, see them for the divinity and stay in your power. And let me tell you, I don't think that you ever stop this masterclass of life. So it's so funny because, um, you know, years back I was completely codependent and dis dysfunctional in my relationships. And I remember, you know, hearing this thing called boundaries and <laugh> boundaries for me meant blocking people. That was the only sense I knew of like boundaries, cuz it was all or nothing when you're kind of an addict. And when you're, you know, in this realm. And so it is taken me many, many years to understand and be able to implement, being able to hold healthy boundaries for myself in the realm of relationship, but also in the realm of friendships, in the realm of, you know, social media in the realm of everything.

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So I invite you to take your pin and paper out. If you do not already subscribe to the, um, podcast, if you do not subscribe to the YouTube, this goes on both platforms. And so please subscribe tele a friend tag, a friend, because this work is super important for us to be able to have our friends, our inner circle, our family be able to all rise together. Our mission in society is to waken a billion people. And how I know we will fulfill upon that mission is by developing the most doctors of divinity on this planet. That truly is my goal. So let's break this on down. It's all the buzz and all the rage to, to create boundaries right now. There's books coming out on it. Everyone's talking about it. It's nothing new. It's something that we've had to learn for for all of all of time, but today we're gonna break it on down.

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So there's a great fairytale. It's called Goldie locks and the three bears. And it's a really funny little fairy tale because it's a story of Goldie locks, this little girl who kind of, I think she gets lost out in the woods and she stumbles upon this like little house, a little log cabin out in the woods. She says, well, maybe somebody can help me find my way back home. And so she knocks three times on the door and she goes inside and she realizes nobody's there. So she starts kind of looking around and she goes, well, I'm a little hungry. And I don't think anyone really mind that. And there's three bowls of porridge and she, you know, eats one and she's like, Ooh, this is too hot. She eats another. And she goes, Ooh, this is too cold. And she eats the third and she says, just right, right.

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Then she goes onto the living room and she finds, I think three chairs sits in one and thinks it's too hard. One's too soft. And the other one's just right. And then she goes up in the bed and, and lays on the bed and tries all three beds. And again, one's too hard, one too soft. And one's just right. And she falls asleep and lo and behold three bears come home. A mom bear, a daddy bear and a baby bear. And they come in and they're like, who's eating our porch. Who's broken our chairs. And they go up and they find little girl and she runs out cuz of course she's afraid of the bears. She runs home and she decides she's never going back to the woods and the bears never see Goldilocks again. So what's the moral of the story. Little weird really right.

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If you think about it. But the point is, as you know, a mentor of mine, a metaphysical mentor told me years ago, years ago that all relationships are the opportunity to discover what you like and what you don't like, what works and doesn't work. Right. And another concept is that all the relationships are the opportunity for us to develop our spiritual mastery, to accept people exactly as they are in their total divinity, but also being able to know and make the distinction between who they are and who we are and what works and doesn't work. So, you know, diving in further into relationships that have no boundaries and that are what we call, you know, enmeshed and really don't work. They end up, you know, being, getting together, breaking up, going around the circles, all the dysfunction of a relationship. We recognize that it's important to, to be able to place boundaries, to have two healthy individuals that are complete themselves and that can come together in the parts of them that do work, the parts that they create together, whether it be, you know, that they just enjoy being friends, whether they enjoy, you know, creating a family together, whether they enjoy creating something for the world.

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And we, we recognize all relationships and we celebrate all relationships, whether you're gay straight, no matter what, your definition of a relationship, we're just talking about the generality of all relationship, because guess what? All of life is a relationship. So we have to understand that all of life is going to be pushing us to see what our boundaries are. So another word for boundaries is living your truth, right? So I, I, I don't really care for the word boundaries so much because I don't feel like I need to place bounds on anything. And cuz I'm boundless. My love is boundless. My expression is boundless, but where it's received may, you know, be different for, you know, it may not be received and we call it boundaries, whatever it is. But it really is more about boundaries. It's not about the other person. Boundaries is about yourself.

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And let me explain. So I remember, uh, years back being in a dysfunctional relationship and thinking if he just changed, then I wouldn't have to, you know, be a, a B, right? If he just didn't do this, then I wouldn't have to be controlling. If he just did this, then I wouldn't get upset, eh, wrong answer, right? From a metaphysical standpoint, everything is just a reflection and projection of our beliefs. And if we're having beliefs that love hurts or love is chaotic or relationships are hard, hence they will be hard. Hence you'll always be going in the ups and downs of the roller coasters out there. So placing the boundaries is more about getting clear about yourself, about what works for you. What doesn't work for you, where, you know, everyone has different cycles, how you sleep may be different than somebody else, what you like to do.

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And when you like to do it, it might be different than somebody else. How, you know, you go about in work may be different than say your boss or your peers, right? Everything is about getting clarity of who you are so that you can show up fully as you are and people can accept you. And you can accept people, places and things as they are because the gap of suffering is wanting people, places and things to be different than they are. So our gap of boundaries is really getting clear of accepting others exactly are, but also, and more importantly, accepting ourselves for who we are so that we can fully state and be clear of who we are. So other people can accept us or not accept us and place their own boundaries of living their own truth for themselves. So how the hell do we do this?

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Right? So for me, it took a lot of self work, a lot of, uh, transforming my trauma, a lot of 12 step programs, a lot of practice and failing and practicing and failing, right? And making amends and then making amends again and so on and so forth. So today I can honestly say that building your boundaries primarily has to do with understanding and the universal law in that we recognize that everything is frequency, right? All of life is frequency. And so we understand that if we inform our subconscious mind and universal law with upsets and sadness and frustrations and arguments, we're going to disrupt our soul and we're going to actually create this even more tribulation, that's gonna create more tribulation in the world. So as I say, there's only, the only thing to fear is fear itself because fear itself is what's informing your subconscious mind in the divine mind.

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So it's not about another person that can upset you. It's not about because no one can upset you. You are responsible for your own emotion. So boundaries are not about somebody else. They're actually about taking responsibility around your own emotions and around your own vibration and your own energy. So we always say that, you know, when I'm working with somebody and they're trying to heal the bare minimum, I need someone to stay is at peace. Okay. If you're going, if the, the goal is to get into bliss and ecstasy and in that flow and in the manifestation, like creation factor of all of it, right? But if you go down and you're upset and you're, I turbulate, and you're reacting, then you're going to go into a spiral of downward spiral versus up here, you're gonna go into an upward spiral, right? So if you are not being able to set boundaries and you're getting into upsets, then that's dangerous because you're gonna start creating your whole life is gonna out picture from those upsets.

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And it's gonna be a downward spiral. So placing your boundaries, not about them. It's actually about you holding in the minimum par piece. And if you're not able to stay in peace, then you definitely need to place boundaries. Okay. And it's not about them. It's not about changing someone else's behavior. It's about taking responsibility for your wellbeing, for your life, for how you're informing subconscious mind. Okay. And universal mind. So boundaries is really about you living a divine life and taking responsibility around living your truth and living in your power. If you're place your power again, outside of yourself, to somebody else and making your emotions about somebody else, then we have a lot of work to do. Okay. But the first thing again is boundaries and boundaries are about getting clear of, uh, getting committed to staying in peace. Peace has to be the bare minimum, the par of your emotions.

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Okay. And if you're getting into all the upsets, that's, it's good. As long as you're transmuting the emotions and propelling you more towards your truth. Okay? So even the times when I was dysfunctional in relationship, getting upset, sending ridiculous text, you know, blocking people, doing the whole vicious cycle, the dysfunction I now can see where actually was a blessing in disguise because all those things were birthing my truth. They were birthing what I'm really committed to, which is also birthing my power. So it's not like it's bad when you don't hold your boundaries. Sometimes. Cause sometimes we have to, to go through those lessons of life to discover our truth, but in placing boundaries. So how do you do this? Right? It's not about telling somebody else what you need. I mean, yes, it's good to communicate that it's really about coming into it from a place of knowing who you are and what really works for you and doesn't work for you.

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So let's take it in a different stance. Let's just say, for example, I run a very large, uh, a community of, uh, hundreds of women and a few men and train, um, you know, thousands of women and men around the globe. And then we touch hundreds of thousands of people, um, online, right? So we have a community. And let me tell you that this test me in many ways and I had someone in the community reach out and they said, um, you know, Dr. Aaron, what do you do? I have a client that I had of falling out with. And I said, congratulations, this is great. This means a universe is developing you because years back, you know, I'd say maybe one out of a hundred people, you know, you just don't vibe something just doesn't go on. It's not right. Right. So it's always a blessing cuz if there's a breakdown at all, it's actually the opportunity to put in what I call in business policy.

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In relationship, we may call it like our standards, right. But we still have to place boundaries. So as you're watching this, I invite you or listening to this, I invite you to think about where do you get upset? And that's where you need to create a boundary, which means clear communication. And if someone doesn't honor what works for you or what you need, then you've gotta place more of a boundary. So there is a time and place to block people. There is a time and place for you to, to hold your own sacred space of peace within your life and in your soul. And so it's up to you individually. So what I'd recommend is I would actually recommend, um, taking a journal. Okay. And in the journal, I want you to have three different rows if you will, but three different rows. And in the rows you can kind of say, um, a line of kind of the worst behavior, right?

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Wh when do you know that you're spiraling into your worst behavior when you're going below par into that part of you? That isn't good. Maybe you're sending bad texts. Maybe you're breaking up with somebody getting back together. Maybe you are acting out even more than that. Maybe, um, you're shaming somebody, maybe you're gossiping behind their back, whatever it is. I want you to write down all those things. And then I want you to also write in that same column of all the things that someone else, your partner, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, or whoever it is, does that has you act that way because you are gonna have to take responsibility around that. Okay. The second row I want you to put in there and I want you to put in kind of your, your par what's your par, what what's the what's the must have of, of kind of who you are at kind of not your best self, but the person that you, you, you really are committed to being like somebody who's a good communicator.

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Somebody, somebody who is healthy and you know, in, in who they are in relationship, um, somebody that's showing up fully, somebody that is serving and not just selfish, right? Whatever it may be that kind of par that middle, like must have. And I want you to write out also in the must have column, what are you must have from your other, from your partner. They need to be, you know, clear in their communication. They need to, you know, be somebody that shows up, um, committed in the relationship, you know, no shenanigans, whatever that may be. Okay. And then the next column, the third column, I want you to put in kind of your ideal scene, right? Like what's the ideal scene. Um, somebody shows up completely powerful. Um, I am, uh, in gratitude all the time I am in serving. I am creating, uh, experiences with my partner and making a difference in the world, whatever that may be.

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And I want you to put in what that third column is. Okay. So you have three columns, one's kind the worst self number two column is kind of your, the part of you that is kind of your must have your standard of who you wanna be in the world and relationship. And your third is your ideal scene, the vision of who you really wanna be and who, who you wanna show up as in relationship. Okay. And then what I want you to do is I want you to take this kind of list into your life. And I want you to take responsibility and notice when you're coming down into your worst self, the first part, right? What is it that's happening? And where can you take responsibility and put boundaries on yourself? Or do you need to place boundaries on another person and have them outta your life?

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Because you have to take responsibility so that you are the only one that will, will go into that first row into the worst version of yourself. No one else can make you go there. No one else can make you become the worst version of yourself because you have the choice to keep yourself in environment. And if you're in a domestically, you know, abused, uh, uh, environment or something like that, please, um, you know, get professional, help call services. If something happens where you're in danger, okay. But you have to take a look at these three areas and take responsibility for your life. So again, boundaries looks like you taking responsibility, whether that means that you only spend so much time with somebody, whether that means that you take a title of, of what that relationship is off of you. Right? So for example, um, if somebody's, you know, getting upset, let's just say, for example, um, I had a client that, that she would get very upset once she got into a committed relationship because she had more expectations of the relationship.

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I had another client that they, um, you know, when they began to work together in their relationship, she'd get really upset when they worked together. Cuz there was just too much, there was like a whole plethora of other expectations of work stuff. And so what, what we sometimes will do with people that are dealing with trying to create boundaries is kind of delaying some of those things, taking away, maybe a title, maybe taking away intimacy because it doesn't work for you, you of the expectations that you have when it comes to that level of relationship versus with a friend, right. I experienced that as well. And with say work, maybe it's that you don't work together because you're not able to just, you know, it, it, you turn into another person in work and that person and that relationship doesn't work, taking it into your intimate relationship, right.

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Where are those boundaries for yourself? What are those boundaries for yourself? And you think about and begin to notice in those triggers, in that, that worst part of yourself, what happens that triggers you to getting into that worst part of yourself? Are you able to recreate those parts or are you trying to change the other person? If you're trying to change the other person that ain't never gonna work. Okay. It's really about taking responsibility for yourself. Okay. So, and the cool thing about boundaries and about all of life is that universe is gonna keep testing. You keep testing, you keep pushing you to know what you're truly committed to, to know what your boundaries are. So always say a different words for boundaries is really commitment. Who are you and what are you committed to? What are your standards? What is it that really works for you and doesn't work for you?

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And it brings me to my favorite quote, which is by Gerda, which reads until one is committed. There is hesitancy the chance to draw back concerning all acts of initiative and creation. There's one elementary truth and the ignorance of which killed countless dreams, splendid plans. And at the moment, one definitely commits oneself. Then Providence moves to all sorts of things occur to help. One that would never otherwise occur. A whole stream events from decisions raising in one favor of manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man or woman could have dreamt would have come her way, whatever you can do or dream that you can do begin it boldness has genius, power magic in it, begin it now. And so the point is, is that clarity equals power boundaries holds you in your power for your commitment to yourself of what works for you.

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Okay? It doesn't mean you have to make anyone wrong. So the practices is to get clear of what works for you. No longer have to make anyone wrong, be able to see them as the perfection that they are, be able to see them as the divine spirit that they are and be able to hold boundaries for yourself. And for me, this was one of the biggest breaking healing points of a relationship that I was in that I had to say goodbye. In fact, I had to block him. He was, you know, uh, a famous rockstar and had fallen off the wagon for theta time, had cheated on me for the umpteenth time. And I had to block him for my own piece, for my own sanity and in the healing process. The biggest thing that actually had me finally heal beyond doing my trauma work on my PTSD work and all that is I had a lie and the lie was that I didn't love him because I did love him.

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And I still love him to this day. But that doesn't mean that I would want him in my life or definitely not to be a partner. Okay. So you can hold somebody as a perfection and the divinity that they are and still have boundaries. That boundary may be. I'm just in that person's life part of the time, I cannot be in this life at all, but you can still see their perfection. You can still love them because the truth is that we are we're one with everyone and we love everyone. That's the truth. The truth is we are only love and we're all one we're one unity. Okay. So in that I just say, may you live your divine life? May you live your truth? May you live in your power? May you know that every relationship is the opportunity to discover what you like and what you don't like.

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Every opportunity is the step more into our unconditional love and be able to place boundaries for us to thrive and for somebody else to thrive as well. And so I just say, may we place healthy boundaries and live bountiful? And so I just know this in my mind as together we say. And so it is okay, you guys, I'm so excited. If you wanna learn more about placing boundaries and really birthing your truth, we do that in new thought global and society. If you wanna facilitate and do some of the processes we do in transform the trauma in birthing people's truth in doing all that work, you're welcome to learn more about society as well. We train and develop and certify spiritual coaches, practitioners, and all of the above. Yes. You can become a doctor of Divi as well. Okay. So have a beautiful day. You guys, and please share this like this comment below, uh, share it with a friend who you know, is struggling with codependency or in relationship drama, or needs to learn how to place boundaries. We all have to master this. Okay. And together we rise. So have a beautiful day. And may you live your truth?

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This is

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Live from Los Angeles. Welcome to the Dr. Aaron show. We're all about manifestation transformation and breakthroughs. It's time to claim your birthright of prosperity, vitality and love. So grab your tea coffee, because together we're awakening the world. May you live your truth?

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Welcome to the Dr. Aaron show. We come together each day to know the truth, live on spiritual principle and align with the universal law. We also come together to know the truth of who we are and claim our birthright of prosperity. So if you're somebody who has dealt with co-dependency dysfunctional relationships, or just really feeling inadequate or not totally fulfilled without somebody in your life, this is for you. I'm Dr. Aaron, I'm a doctor of divinity teaching universal law, metaphysics of mind, and how to reprogram your subconscious mind. I, um, am the founder of new thought global and society, and I have trained and developed, you know, thousands of women across the globe. And today I wanna break down how you truly can live and empower life, how you can heal from codependency dysfunctional relationships and what that process is. And if you're a coach, how to deal with somebody who's dealing with codependency.

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So let's do this in you guys. Okay. So welcome again to this, um, this series R from you doing a series on codependency, dysfunctional relationships and all the above, because this is a big issue. You guys is a huge issue in our world, in our culture. And if you're somebody who's really seeking that freedom in your relationships, you're ready to really live a life where you are generating love and you don't have bounds to your love. And you're also able to accept people, places, and things as they are, and be able to fully step into your power. This is for you. So again, I'm Dr. Aaron and I know this very well because I was codependent for majority of my life. I came from an upbringing where I watched my mom as a total codependent in and out of relationships, ups and downs in her emotions.

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And I too carried it into my, uh, young adulthood. And I ended up being in relationships where, um, I got married to somebody that I didn't even love because I thought that it would complete my life. Right. Um, I was with somebody that was an alcoholic and a drug addict, a very kind of famous a rockstar that was a complete disaster and dysfunctional relationship. And I'm not pointing the finger at him because I was just as dysfunctional, uh, because I didn't, I thought that if I, you know, if he just changed, then you know, I was only acting out or sending mean texts or screaming or yelling or doing whatever, because it was his problem and what he was doing and the lies and the cheating and all that stuff that he did. Therefore, I justified everything that I did. And then I came to a really screeching halt when I had to surrender and get down on my knees and pray to my higher self and say, I need help.

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This is not working. And I cannot, I can no longer live like this. So believe me, I know a lot about codependency. And so today we're gonna break on down. How do you deal with this? Because when I train and develop spiritual entrepreneurs and coaches, we take 'em through a certification program. One of the big conversations is how do we deal with somebody that's dealing with addiction? Because codependency and dysfunctional relationships is an addiction because it's a looping process that happens, you know, within the mind. And as a meta physicians, we recognize that everything begins in mind and everything begins with our identity, with our limiting beliefs and are limited identity. And so for me, I know exactly where it came from. It came from the traumas of this lifetime and past lifetimes and the command and the identity I had was I'm not lovable and love has to hurt, love, has to abandon.

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And so it was a self-fulfilling prophecy in my life for me to be able to pick people that were not available or me to make sure that it turned into some drama. For sure. Okay. So when I'm working with, um, developing a certifying coaches, it's really interesting because when we come to this topic, we have to recognize that, uh, you know, codependency and addiction stems from trauma. Trauma is not what people think it just is. It's not just a physical thing. If you're human, you've had emotional trauma, meaning that you've had times of high states of negative emotions that cause frequency and vibration, which, which informs a subconscious mind backed by what we call a command. And the command sometimes will go like this. I don't, I, you know, I'm not enough, something's wrong with me. I don't wanna live, you know, love hurts, love abandons.

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I'm not lovable, whatever that command is and it plays out, right? So the issue is when we're dealing with a client that has codependency or dysfunctional relationship, the issue is that if they're still in that relationship, they're still in that environment and they're not able to not re-trigger those traumas. It's kind of like having a wound and you have a scab on it, right? And if you keep picking up the scab, it keeps bleeding. So if you have trauma and you are inner dysfunctional or codependent relationship, and you're constantly getting triggered, getting upset, re-opening those wounds. Then as a coach, it's almost impossible to have you really have true growth, which means that, yes, we recognize that trauma works on that and, you know, awareness and birthing your core values and healing. Everything has to happen, but we have to recognize sometimes we need to remove ourselves from the environment or from the relationship in order to heal.

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So I remember, you know, years back being in a dysfunctional relationship and I loved him, you know, I, there, it was not a lie. I actually did love him, but there was also parts of it that did not work. And I was unable to be in the relationship, right. So it was a really hard thing. And they say it is stronger than heroin addiction in that when you love somebody and you have all those emotions, there's a high that people get off of the emotions of, you know, the high of falling in love. And let's say it's stronger than cocaine, right. And then, you know, coming out of it and being going through withdrawals and the whole cycle, the Merry go round cycle. Right. And we do wanna state that there's some incredible programs like coda.org or 12 step programs. And we highly recommend those for breaking the cycle.

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We also recommend checking yourself into a facility. If you can't start to get help on your own, and you can't start to do it on your own. Okay. So beyond that as a spiritual coach, as somebody who trains and develops and certifies spiritual coach, there is a process to it in that as the individual coach getting trained certified each individual as a coach needs to decide if this is something that they want to handle, and they want to work with clients that are dealing with codependency or, you know, dysfunctional relationships. Me, I have come to my truth. And my truth is that I, um, will have an agreement. The first session I have with a client, or even before first session, we will talk about co-dependency and addiction. And in that, if, if somebody is dealing with that, then we have an agreement that they're either able to, you know, start to manage that and be able to not get too reactive or drink too much, or be in any abusive relationship.

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Otherwise, our agreement is after 30 days working together or after a few sessions, that if they're not able to stabilize in their environment, then they need to remove themselves from the environment or we'll put our coaching on hold until they're able to. Okay. Because it's really important. And I wanna speak to the person that is going through codependency and going through dysfunction out there in the world right now. First of all, I just wanna say, I am holding you in my heart. I know the perfection of whatever you're going through. I really truly do. I don't. We, as, as divine teachers as understand the power of mine, I do not look at as bad or good in that it is for your growth. And I recognize that when I went through codependency and a very dysfunctional relationship, it was a huge blessing in disguise because it was the one thing that de that demanded me to do my inner healing and demanded me to get to my low so that I would surrender so that I would say, I, I decided to powerfully heal myself.

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And so right now I'm holding you in my heart, knowing the perfection of wherever you're at. Okay. And I recognize that as you know, it's not about trying to get better. It's really surrendering to what is, and if you need to stay in that relationship, then you know what you need to stay there as long as you need to stay there until you are ready to say no more. And that's what I know for sure. And as a coach, I have one goal and one goal only is to help you get clear what your true goal is. And if you, you know, your goal is to be, be healthy, loving, completely, have an expressed, loving, functioning, amazing relationships in your life. But you're over here in dysfunction, discord, codependency, and suffering, and the insanity of it. Then we wanna know what is it that you truly want?

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Are you committed to staying in that for a while and trying to figure it out? Are you committed to healing and completely getting over it? Only you can answer that. Okay. But in that, when you come to understand what you truly want, cuz some people are just committed to the misery. Some people really truly are committed to staying in the drama and saying there, my invitation is free to get real with yourself and ask yourself, what is it you truly are committed to. And in that you should get real with yourself. And if you're really ready to heal and do the work, my invitation is for you to get out of that environment. Okay. That I'm not telling anybody to get a divorce. I'm not telling anybody to break up with anybody. I'm not telling anybody anything I'm saying to get out of the environment so that you're able to have space so that your triggers from your trauma, aren't getting retried.

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And then of course, so that's all about getting aware, waking up to how you are creating reality, no matter what they're doing, no matter if you're with a narcissist, no matter if they've cheated, no matter if whatever they've done, this has nothing to do with them. And this has everything to do with you. And in that awakening of recognizing that you are the creator of your universe, you're the only person that's gonna put up with whatever you wanna put up. You're the person that makes the standards for your life. You are the person that puts the boundaries on your life. You're that person. And in that, the next step is reprogramming. That means reprogramming your self subconscious mind, reprogramming the identity of who you are, reprogramming and neutralizing and transforming all those traumas for you to use those traumas, to bird, the highest version of yourself and bird, maybe be even a purpose and a calling to come outta this for yourself.

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Okay. So first is of course, to awaken, to recognizing the truth that you're creating your reality. The second is to recognize that you need to reprogramming reprogram your subconscious mind and you know, transform the true identity that you are. The third is to, um, to align, to align and birth. What are your core values? What do you really want? And what would a healthy relationship look like for you? You know, what is aligning with your truth and aligning with universal law so that you can live a life of harmony, live a life of unbounded, love, live a life of all that, right? And then the four step is to affirm, affirm every day through your daily spiritual practice, to who you hang out with to where you put your energy and so on and so forth. Okay. So in this, let's just take a deep breath into the nose and next sign out.

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And I just say, thank you. I am so grateful for the suffering and the dysfunction and the co-dependency. I recognize that there are so many lessons and blessings through this. And in this, I recognize the truth of who you are, your divine, powerful, infinite, intelligent, spiritual being, and that you have all the wisdom in you to know how to reach for your highest self and your highest help, which, uh, may mean getting help from something that seems external, but recognizing everything is one mind and you and I are connected. Everyone's connected. We are your higher self it's. All of the universe is your higher self working for you. And so I declare healing. I declare living your truth. I declare knowing and, and seeking your divine life, the highest expression of the use of your energy, so that you can be a benefit to this planet so that you can be a benefit to your lineage so that you can be a benefit to your friends and family.

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And if you have children to your children, to your future generations. And so I simply know this in gratitude, knowing you are already healed in the divine mind, this is just an experience you're going through. I recognize you're already, you're already perfect. You're already whole, you're already love. You're already. All of that. I simply know this it's released as my word is law as together we say. And so it is okay. So on that note, I just am saying, uh, you know, yes, to you, yes, to you living your perfect life. And if you would like to discover more of how to transform your trauma, how to birth your truth, how to live that divine life. You're welcome to reach below. There are some links to our community to learn more, um, to come into our community and get trained and facilitate the work to get some one-on-ones to do whatever it is.

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And if not, I just wanna say, thank you for coming here. Please share this subscribe, um, to whether you're watching this on the podcast or whether you are on YouTube or wherever you are. I just say, please share this out with somebody because I know so many people are suffering from codependency and there's levels of codependency. Sometimes codependency looks like you can't even function and your whole life's falling apart. Sometimes codependency is just that you keep handing your power over and making somebody your source of joy, which instantaneously means that you make them the source of your suffering. So we all are codependent some level because unless you're a master spiritual, you know, being on this planet, UN you know, putting no power out to the external world, we're all codependent developing ourselves to be completely the unique divine expression that we are. Okay. So I have a beautiful day. And may you live your truth?

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This is live from Los Angeles. Welcome to the Dr. Aaron show. We're all about manifestation transformation and breakthroughs. It's time to claim your birthright of prosperity, vitality and love. So grab your tea coffee, because together we're awakening the world. May you live your truth?

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Live from Los Angeles. We come together to know the truth, live on spiritual principle and yes, align with universal law. I'm Dr. Aaron, I'm Dr. Divinity, and we come together on this podcast to teach the metaphysics of mine, universal law, and really understanding how we're manifesting 24 7. How does this entire dynamic called you the universe work and break it all down so that you can be the most empowered in your personal professional life? Yes, yes. Yes. So today we wanna talk about trauma versus prayer, which is a really interesting concept. How do those two even relate what's going on? And the point is, why do we even care about this, this conversation? The point is that if you are somebody who is still kind of reacting in life still, you don't feel totally healed. Yes, you may consider you need trauma work. Maybe you don't even understand what trauma work is.

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And then maybe you're somebody who has heard of this thing called prayer. Maybe you hate prayer. Maybe you do need to believe in prayer. But the point is is that we all want to have powerful lives. We all wanna be empowered. We all wanna live our greatest version of ourselves. We wanna be fully expressed, have prosperity, love, abundance, all the above. Well, if you want that, this podcast is for you because I'm gonna break on down. Why doing your trauma work and doing what we call a affirm mind treatment? AKA prayer is imperative. Those two things we use primarily in new thought global and society. And why, why do you need both or why? You know, one might work more for you than the other, right? Okay. So let's break this on down as a community. We recognize that we're here to really restore the truth of who we are.

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Really. We just remember the truth of who we are and unveiling this via truth. We heal by revealing truth in new thought global. We, we teach metaphysic of mind and understand how your subconscious is, is the universal law and breaking this all down. So someone asked me the other day, you know, why do we need E four trauma method? If we do spiritual mind treatment. And first I wanna break on down, what is trauma work and what is, you know, prayer from a metaphysical standpoint. Okay. I'm sure if you've been in my tribe or community, you're like, okay, we already know this, right. But it's always good to remember what these are. Okay. Trauma is a state that is basically, uh, place on the track where you had a really high state of negative emotion. And we recognize that the subconscious mind is, is programmed and received by frequency and vibration.

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And you're such a powerful, spiritual being the moment you place a positive or negative, meaning on something you instantaneously are, are informing your subconscious mind, which is one with a divine mind, universal law. Okay. So a state of a trauma experience is when you're in a high, high state of a negative emotion, you've placed a major negative thing onto it. Maybe, you know, you're dealing with a big breakup. Maybe you heard really bad news. Maybe you, you know, had an incident where you were sexually abused, whatever that may be. It's a state of a high state of a negative emotion backed by a limiting belief. Something's wrong with me? I'm not enough. I will never love again. It's called a command. And it, it places into the subconscious mind, um, and Ingram into the neurological system and it also tags the DNA. Okay. So there's trauma.

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Okay. That basically is a very brief summary of trauma. So we recognize trauma work is imperative because it's really neutralizing the mental pictures, which actually ends up neutralizing that negative charge on your DNA, releasing that, and being able to have you be more able for you read the dynamics of who you are. One with the universe exponentially not have huge upsets and reactions, and just be the effect of what you've created at a subconscious level, but begin to be someone who can restore freedom of choice and free will, and be able to be able, um, to not be, you know, uh, used by your emotions, but to use your emotions instead. So trauma that's breaking it down. Okay. Just a real gist of it versus prayer. And a lot of people out there may be like, I don't believe in prayer, that's delusional. We don't teach prayer to some man in the sky we teach what's called affirmative prayer or spiritual mind treatment.

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And spiritual mind treatment is basically not praying for something it's praying to become something it's actually expanding one's consciousness. And when we expand the consciousness, just like we expand the DNA, we basically begin to have all answers already. A prayer is answered instantaneously. It's not about going out and doing something it's revealing that there's always, there's already that choice. It's already in front of your face, right? It's literally like the answer is already there. And so we know in spiritual mind treatment that this is, um, is in consciousness. And when we do spiritual mind treatment, we are going through five steps, which is about acknowledging the one power that is the second is identifying, recognizing that you are that divine power. You are, that that essence that's created the entire universe and you have all the wisdom right now and all the resources right now.

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Third is, um, declaration of declaring what it is that you choose to direct energy upon mind to experience in this, in this life. And right now, and next is releasing, releasing, or sorry, gratitude, gratitude, energizing from the mind, doesn't know the difference between something that's not happened, or it has happened in mind. It's called like biofeedback. It's literally like you're energizing the mental pictures and it has to out picture into the world. Okay. And then the last is releasing, recognizing there's nothing to do that you've informed universal law in your subconscious mind and therefore it's done in the divine mind. Okay. So what spiritual mind treatment should work period, right? But the issue is this spiritual mind treatment is, is not contingent upon anything, but it is contingent upon the person that you're either praying for, or that you pray for yourself how receptive you are to receive the truth of who you are, how receptive you are to, to actually, you know, being able to receive the goodness and the abundance.

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And some people can't receive it, right. They literally can't receive the abundance and love and everything. And so we wanna break this on down because it's imperative. We recognize that there's really only, you know, there's, the subconscious mind is very specific. You know, it's so specific. It's one with universal law. It's basically negatively charged, neutral or positive, a negative zero or positive, that's it, we're a binary system. We are literally like a computer system. So we wanna break on down if this is the case, if we're in a new thought movement and we're having, this is our practice is to live the highest, expand the consciousness and reap the rewards of this entire universe. Right. Then we've gotta get our mind, right. And we either need to neutralize that, um, the trauma or we need to do prayer or both. Right. And so someone asked me a brilliant, it's a really brilliant question.

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Why if prayer works right, if prayer really works spiritual mind treatment, why do we need E four trauma method? Why don't we just go straight to truth? And it's a great question. And so what happened was years ago, I was in a spiritual center for years, training developing, and, and I was around, you know, all the people in that center. And I would witness people and I was like, huh, these people keep praying, but it doesn't seem like things are shifting in their life. And then other people would pray, do S mind treatment and things would shift dramatically. And so I began to inquire into what what's going on. Like, why is this working for one person versus not another person? And, and all of a sudden I realized what was really going on and the best, um, analogy would be, imagine you're a farmer and you have this plot of land.

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You have, you know, you're ready to, it's a new, you know, year, whatever, and you're, you're planting the seeds for your crops, but the issue is there are weeds all through your entire land. And so if you plant these new seeds, it's, it's not really gonna work. You know, the seeds are gonna actually take over and destroy your seeds. So what are you gonna do? You know what I mean? So the point is, is that E four trauma method and trauma work is kind of like going in and getting out and getting to the root of all those weeds before you see the plant of truth, which is through spiritual mind treatment. So as practitioners, which I love developing spiritual practitioners and you thought, um, global so amazing is we're really teaching to no truth. That's all we're doing. Spiritual practitioners are masters of, of being able to spot the limited belief, those weeds in your garden.

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And they're also masters of doing spiritual mind treatment, right. This, and they're also coaches, those coaches are, are developed in all the actual, um, E for trauma method and all of the different, uh, processes to clear out the weeds and to bur someone's truth. Okay. So now imagine here you are the farmer, you you're ready to plant your seed. You're like, I know I want these crops. I'm gonna plant these, um, you know, avocado, whatever avocado trees or whatever we're gonna plant, we're going to harvest, but I've got all these weeds. And if I plant these avocado trees, it it's just not gonna work. Like I literally it's like asking for problems and you may even lose all the investment that you made in all the seeds that you're ready to plant. So E for trauma method and dealing with your trauma is really about getting the soil, right?

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Because what I noticed when I was in that spiritual center is that people there, they weren't able to receive. They had so much trauma that they were, there were, they had so much limited beliefs cuz limited beliefs come from trauma. That's what it comes from. It comes from your epigenetics, from your DNA. It comes from everything in your lineage. But all of that comes from the experiences and putting limited beliefs, which can only be done to itself. Right? So I began to work with people and recognize that I had been doing a lot of subconscious work developing processes to really help neutralize all the trauma and stuff and taking it to ours, helping people birth their truth, the E four trauma method versus other trauma is we don't just, you know, get someone that they're not reactive in life. The point is to transmute the energy to birth someone's truth to birth, who they're, what they're really here to do in this lifetime.

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So I was doing that work and it was almost like a little bit separate from the, from the prayer work. But I, what I recognized is as I began to work with somebody and I began to do both, I began to do that trauma work neutralized. They were much more receptive. Remember spiritual mind treatment is, has a contingency for somebody to receive the prayer, if you will. And it's how receptive they are. So it's kind of like clearing out that plot of land, getting the roots of all those weeds through the E four trauma method, through trauma work and getting that all cleaned up. And now here you are as the farmer. And you're like, I have choice here. I get to actually plant these seeds that I really want for my life. And I get to actually harvest them and nurture them with a daily spiritual practice, water them every day and reap the rewards.

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Okay. So why do we need trauma work when we, and when we have spiritual mind treatment and somebody could maybe do spiritual mind treatment, maybe they don't have a lot of weeds. You know, maybe they're able and more powerful and they're like, I'm a farmer. I'm planting these things. I will deal with every single wheated as they come up because I'm so committed. I'm knowing the truth it's done in my mind. It's over and that's fine. It's not like you have to do trauma work before you can do spiritual mind treatment. Okay. It depends on each individual. It depends on how powerful their consciousness is. And we're all, all powerful all the time, but we have inverted use of our power. And if you don't know the power and you don't fully know it, embody it, then you gotta do some trauma work. Okay. And I'm not saying you, you have to do trauma work.

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But what I found is the best kind of, uh, formula for most clients is to do both so that they fully fully are able and have all tools of themselves to have the highest, um, healing and revealing of them. So on that note, I just say, yes, yes, yes. Taken a deep breath in through the nos and excellent out. I recognize the power of, of this work, the power. I'm so grateful for all the masters that have come before. I'm so grateful for new thought movement and all the great dynamics of restoring the truth of who we are, this ancient wisdom, the wisdom that understands that with each new thought we can create entire new universals. I recognize you are the same source that is creating the entire universe, everything as above. So below everything happening in the cosmos happening in you right now, every last drop of it, the inversion of the south, you get to create heaven or hell right here right now.

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And in this, I know the choice of neutralizing through trauma work and also directing energy upon a subconscious and universal law for a specific manifestation, the highest version of you. And so I say yes, to all these dynamic tools we have yes. To the community, yes. To all this wisdom, it sets you free. Cuz I know it has for me, I simply know this, our releases ask together. We say, and so it is amazing you guys. So I would recommend doing both your trauma work and uh, doing spiritual mind treatment. If you're interested in getting developed in these things and being able to teach them, facilitate them, uh, you can check out soul society.com or, and you can also DM me directly on social media. We've got some trainings all the time going on as well. You can check out our free trainings or gifts or whatever, all on soul society.com. It's all right there for you. Okay. So have a beautiful day and may live your truth.

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Thank you for tuning in society and Dr. Aaron podcast. If you've had a call to be a spiritual leader or coach, you can go to soul society.com and check out our free training. If you receive value here, I would love it. If you take a moment and give a five star review in exchange, I have a ton of free gifts for you. Grab your free awakening book, 40 guided meditations and digital manifesting masterclass. I also have a free money meditation and worksheet for you. So you can begin to break through your scarcity mindset and claim your birthright of prosperity. You can get all of your gifts and learn about our upcoming transformational events in my biolink in both Instagram and Facebook. That's under Dr. aaron.tv, which is D E R I N TV. Also, I'd love to invite you into our free private community on Facebook, under groups called society. That is facebook.com/groups/society. That's S O U L C I E T E. Have a divine day. And may you live your truth?