In this week's episode, Jawana desperately wants to let go of the resentment with her ex from them both cheating.
Do you struggle forgiving your partner or ex?
Do you struggle forgiving yourself?
In this episode, we breakdown how resentment is created within and how to heal it from within
We go through a divinely guided coaching session, assisting her to claim her birthright of being the Goddess that she is!
What you will learn in this episode:
How to forgive yourself and your partner from cheating
How to spot your limiting beliefs and limited identity projecting into your relationship
How to make peace with your ex and create a life as friends
In this week’s podcast, we are diving into Sex, Love, & Recovery!
In this episode, I'm talking about Couples Therapy from a Spiritual Counseling perspecting; how to let go of resentment from cheating ✨
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dr. Erin podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth, your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity. I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe in you. Together we're awakening the world.
Welcome back my friends. I am super psyched for this caller coming in one because we just chatted for just a moment before she came in, and I think that what I'm starting to recognize with the callers coming in for this series is the healing begins when we say Yes. So the minute that you even apply to come on this podcast, there's something that knows there's going to be a shift in the subconscious soul level and the healing begins. And sometimes healing doesn't always look like we want to look. Sometimes it brings up extra emotions, sometimes it brings up triggers out in the world. But what I know is that whatever is coming up is ready to be healed. So I'm super excited. So welcome. The next caller is Joanna and she is in from Roosevelt, New York 46 and is having what we would consider in the traditional human world, codependency and dysfunctional out picturing into relationship. And you wrote Letting go and allowing myself to be free in the new version of myself. So hi Jawana. Welcome, welcome, welcome. How are you?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I'm great. How are you?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
You look stunning. First of all, I just want to say that thank you. You look absolutely gorgeous and thank you much for being courageous and vulnerable and just want to just fully receive your heart. What's going on?
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Letting go of resentment is where I'm at. I was married for almost 20 years and in choosing me I had to let that go and I still hold onto some of the resentment of it. Things come up no matter how much I try to clear the energy of it, I guess as much as he tries to be a friend, I push it back and I'm not able to receive even a olive branch or, yeah, that's where I'm at right now.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Thank you. So I just want to get my head around the whole situation just so I can fully say you guys are divorced now, do you have children together?
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Two? Yes. Okay,
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Cool. And do you mind me asking, was there cheating? What really went down?
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Yeah, it was, there was infidelity on and then it was on both parts. I got angry and retaliated with infidelity and yeah, it was not nice. It wasn't really nice. One of the things was me just, I guess waking up to me. I wasn't happy either. So when I found out that there was infidelity, I'm like, well, I'm not happy, so why don't I make myself happy? And it became a selfish head on, but I knew we needed to separate because that was one thing I always said was I didn't want to lose the love. I know we genuinely love each other, but we were at a place where we weren't making each other happy anymore at all. And we like to say it was too good people, but just not good for each other. And I felt there was a great understanding. And then I feel like once the divorce and we've had trials and things afterwards that I just feel like I'm not supported in and the more I get more self-awareness, I know it's me not feeling supported.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Yes, thank gosh. Right. I mean, so one, I just want to recognize you and your ex-husband. I want to recognize you guys are in a divine partnership in this lifetime of great teachers for each other. So I do know that there is a marriage at a soul level between the two of you guys that whether we sign the contracted divorce out here in the world, that when we have children with somebody, we are married in spiritual realm and that there's nowhere to run but to heal. So I want to congratulate you for being here and recognizing not just to point the finger but saying, Hey, what's really going on here? Yes. So I really want to acknowledge you. As we adult, we start adulting up. Our children start to see us growing up, and I'm like, damn, who do I want to be as a mom? And I want to be that person that reflects that I'm fully in my empowered state no longer pointing the finger at their parent because we know that's one of the worst things we can do for our children is to talk bad about their parent. And the more we can revere them, the more we can become peace within ourselves, the more we can be whole and holy as a family. Great. Okay, so let's do this thing. Let's do this thing. So I don't just believe, I know that all of life is bringing us back home meaning to God's source within meaning to no longer sin, which what does sin mean from a metaphysical and new thought perspective? Sin means missing the mark. Sin means placing our power outside of ourselves. So your ex-husband is the universe putting you through a masterclass for you to finally graduate to no longer point the finger to an outside source. Yeah. So resentment, how does resentment create a, you're a divine, powerful goddess, queen, creator, and how do we create resentment? We create resentment. It's all emotional mastery, right? Resentment is basically wanting things to be different than they are or wanting them to have been different than they are and putting something in that way. You could call it frustration, you could call it resentment, you can call it animosity, whatever it is, it's the consideration that something is in your way of what you want to create. Resentment is expectations not being met by an external source, right? So we know that the first step of all this is recognizing how we created it.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Yeah. Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
The biggest lie with our exes is this. I'm going to tell you one of my personal stories I was not married to, but I was engaged to somebody that lied, cheated and was very narcissistic, abusive and things like that. And when we finally went our separate ways, I suffered greatly and I was like, how can I love this man? After everything he did. In fact, I don't love him. And I kept telling myself, I don't love him. He's bad, he's wrong. He did this, he did that. And the thing that finally made it begin to heal is when I admitted that I still loved him because love is truth. That doesn't mean we don't hold people accountable, but the truth will set us free. So let's just go there for a minute. What are you wanting to create for yourself in your life or in the past that you thought he was standing in the way of you creating that?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Well, I guess that's me now. So everything, my job I, 23 years I left that and I started my own business. I went to school for massage therapy. I'm in school getting my master's in the healing arts, Chinese medicine. Beautiful.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Beautiful.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
So being a healer is my path. And I remember going into massage school and what if that doesn't work for us? It doesn't work for him. And I said, I just feel like this is more of a calling than anything else. So moving forward in that and in my business right now is the best version of myself that I see now.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Great. Great. Okay. So it sounds like you're coming to a place where you're really stepping into your empowerment, really, truly. Right? So we need to do some amends, meaning forgiving. Forgiveness is not about forgiving them necessarily. It's releasing us from being the effect of them.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Okay,
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I'll say that one more time. Forgiveness is not about forgiving them per se, it's about releasing us from being the effect of them. So where do you still feel like you're the effect of him?
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Where do I feel that I'm the effect? So when you say the effect meaning affected by him.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Yes, correct. Exactly.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Okay. The most, I guess when I get the texts, he'll still text me or stuff like that, and I want to be able to receive them in a happy place, but I'm not.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Great. Okay. I'm going to just read this little, let's see if I can find this right here. Yeah, there's a few things here. Before I get to that, I want to read one of the most traditional quote that recovery says every single day. And it's something that you may want to consider saying to yourself in your morning practice when you're meditating, when you're working out, when you get that text that comes through, okay? And I'm going to read it, okay? It's a very, very well known quote, okay? It's a prayer. God grant me the courage to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. I'm going to say it again, God, not toman in the sky per se, whatever your God is the God's source within is what would be my God, okay? God, grant me the courage to accept the things people, places, circumstances that I cannot change. I cannot change when he texts me, whatever, the courage to change the things can. How I can change is I can change how I perceive that, how I respond to that, how I put boundaries on him, whatever that may be, and the wisdom to know the difference. There is one source of suffering, and the source of suffering is wanting people, places in life to be different than they are. And when we fully accept people as they are, whether we want them to be that way or not, we have choice. Someone can be a jerk or whatever. They'd be jerking, they'd be doing whatever right now, who do I want to be? Again, he's your master, he's your guru. He's pushing and prodding and seeing if you have mastered this masterclass or not, and you're like, damn, I see what you're doing right now. I got you. Thank you for showing me who I really am. I get to rise in my queen right now. I am not going to be the fact of you, okay? And I'm literally going to take the higher plane right now
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Every time I get that choice,
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Every time over and over until you graduate.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Okay? I just, I did, okay. Okay. So it's not an end,
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Never an end. Damn. We're still in this plane. Girl. It's not ended. It has not ended.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Okay. Okay.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Yes. So all the work is for that divine moment. In that divine moment. When that text come in where you're like, mother effort, who does this guy think he is? Right? Everything we do, our past trauma work, our forgiving of the resentments, our taking back, all the work that we do individually and our inner work is for that divine moment. When that text comes in and we are not triggered as much, we've done a lot more trauma work or we aren't as much charge on it, we have released some of those resentments and we've forgiven and taken back our power. All of that inner work is for that divine moment, right? When that text come in for us to say, I can choose that or I can choose that. Do I want to stay divided and actually make him wrong, or do I want to rise above and create beyond this vicious cycle?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Okay, I got that. I do have that, yes. So for Thanksgiving that just passed and I am doing the healing work. I really feel like I'm doing the Yeah,
Speaker 1 (12:03):
You are. You're here, girl. I know you are. You wouldn't be showing up here if you weren't.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
So I get a call inviting me to Thanksgiving dinner because my sons were home. My boys are older, they're 20 and 23, and the youngest just February moved in with him. But so I considered it, I considered going to this Thanksgiving dinner and then where I asked, will your mom and everybody be there where I was? But then I get a call the next morning telling me to come that his girlfriend, his new girlfriend will be there. I'm not healed that place yet. Is that something that I should be healing towards? No.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
No one's going to say that. Okay? Part of the work that we do for that divine moment, whether it be someone asking if we want to come to Thanksgiving with their new girlfriend or whether it be sending in that tech, is for us to be in our divine truth, which means this, okay? Our work in our inner work is not only just heal the trauma, it's also to get clear of what our core values are and what our relative truth is in our finances, in relationship, in family and all that. So that, because there's ultimate truth, the truth is you're one with your ex, okay? But in the relative truth, we're not one with our exes. We still to, we basically put boundaries on in order to keep ourselves responsible for our own emotions. So it's not like you should get okay with that. No. Maybe one day you will be okay with that, but what the decision is, is what your relative truth is. Now for you to take responsibility around your emotions. You may want to be okay with it, but you might show up and not be Okay, and you might not be okay, and three years from now you might be like, no problem, I'm fine. The decision is not about what's right or wrong. The decision is for you to stay in your grace and in your power for you to take responsibility around your emotion. If we know universal law works like this, okay, par is peace. If we know how we manifest and we manifest with happiness and ecstasy and that ecstatic enjoyment, we know that it's going to go much better if we're in that vibration. We know that if we go below peace and we're going into sadness, discord, anger, apathy, depression, we know we don't want to create in that realm. So we're buying what they call fear thy Lord. In metaphysics we mean fear thy law, because if we understand how we create, we want to always stay in good frequency. If we have an emotion that brings us down, it's propelling us. I dunno, it's okay. We take it out, it's no problem. So we know that as the goddess that we are, you're a goddess girl. And to stay in that space of creating what we choose to not harm ourselves with putting ourselves in situations that are going to make us not feel good and not be in our truth, we have to be responsible. No one else is responsible for that. He's not responsible for that. No situation's responsible for us. So we make that decision not saying, Hey, that's wrong. You shouldn't have your girlfriend. They're like, Hey, that's awesome that you asked me. I totally appreciate that and I'm taking responsibility for my emotions, and I don't know if I'm quite ready for that, right? It's all good. Thank you for inviting me. But at this point in time, I'm going to check out on this one maybe next year, right?
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Okay. Yep, I got it. Cool.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I still feel that you got it. I still feel it. So let's do an affirmative mind treatment. When we pray, again, we're not praying to some man in the sky. We're praying to expand our mini mind, our divided consciousness as expanded as much into our divine mind, into the one mind that has all intelligence, all knowing, omnipotent, luxury, all of it. Okay, opulence. Okay, so what is it that you want to declare for yourself in your embodiment with your ex? And you said, moving on to the new you. Who do you declare yourself to be?
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Who do I declare myself to be? Is a high vibing, high frequency, loving, abundant, successful entrepreneur, author, speaker,
Speaker 1 (16:14):
I already say and so it is. So let's take a deep breath together. I recognize by the power of my word that this goddess absolutely uses her emotions. She doesn't bypass her emotions or pretend that she's high vibe when she's not feeling high vibe, but she uses the emotions to propel her into the truth of who she is, which is absolutely high vibe, empowerment, entrepreneur, absolutely bringing truth globally across all platforms. I recognize the embodiment and the conviction recognizing that whatever she truly desires, which I know is the peace and the joy and the love and the strength and the forgiveness for her to rise into her divinity, her full divinity, and I claim this, it is known as she absolutely shows the F up and win. It is done in the divine mind. It is done, done, done as together we say. And so it means so proud of you.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
You're going to help so many with this conversation.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
It's a heavy one, but I'm grateful to release it.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
So the prescription as a doctor divinity and not as a traditional doctor, but really is to make sure that you do more and more of your trauma work so that you're not triggered when things come up and that you release those limited beliefs and the limited commands that play out like puppet strings in her life and that you birth your relative truth. Forget what your parents said, forget what the told you. Forget looking at influencers. Forget all of that. What is your truth in the realm of your relationship with money? What's your truth in the realm of relationship? What's your truth in the realm of who you are as a mother? What's the truth of who you are and your expression to bring to the world? I want you to birth your relative truth, and what you do is you notice where you feel good and where you don't feel good, and that will change. Your relative truth will change over time. Okay? So getting your trauma work done, birthing your relative truth in all areas of your life, and then literally making sure you're in a community where you're being able to show up in your daily spiritual practice. So when that text comes in, you're not just reacting, you're having to practice, you're living it, you're breathing it all day long so that you can absolutely respond instead of reacting, knowing from that truth again, just reading it again, a couple of things. I want to stand here. So remember God within, grant me the courage to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. And then I just forgot I wanted to read a couple of things, okay? So just remembering that the ultimate relationship is within that all other relationships are our projection and reflection of our ability or inability to love, okay? And that your identity is creating your beliefs. Your beliefs are creating your thoughts. Your thoughts are creating your feelings. Your feelings are creating emotions, and the emotions are creating the circumstances of life. So anytime the X or anything comes up, it's more about recognizing who am I? Who am I and who do I choose to be regardless of the situation, it's identity. And the truth is, all spiritual work is merging in that true identity of the I am. You are first cause you are the creator. You are one with everything. You're not this mini body, you are not a divided self. You're having the experience through this divided self, but the truth is you are all of it, including your act. And we absolutely knowing in that high frequency of who you are, high vibe is not about one emotion. We're all emotions. High vibe is saying, I'm rising above all emotions. I'm rising above all situations to absolutely claim that I'm a leader, I'm a goddess, and hear me roar. Okay? And you are so that in the bag of chips, by the way,
Speaker 2 (19:57):
I
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Love you so much. So glad to be here with you.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
I love you. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
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In this week's episode, Chelsea is experiencing money issues in her relationships
Do you struggle with money and financial issues in your relationshps
In this episode, we breakdown resentments vs. becoming empowered in the realm of money in your relationships.
We go through a divinely guided coaching session, assisting her to claim her birthright of prosperity and releasing the upsets with her family.
What you will learn in this episode:
How to break your family lineage around finances
How to spot your limiting beliefs that are projecting from your parents down to your children
How to take responsibility for your prosperity and bank account.
In this week’s podcast, we are diving into Sex, Love, & Recovery!
In this episode, I'm talking about how to handle money issues in your relationships ✨
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dr. Erin podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth, your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity. I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe in you together we're awakening the world. Okay, our next caller is Chelsea. She's in from Denver, Colorado, and we are going to be talking a little bit about financial or money issues within relationship in particular dealing with family and friend issues. So, hi Chelsea, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Hi, I'm doing well. Glad to have this time with you.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Super excited to dive deep into this. So what really helps people out there is to get as detailed as oriented of specific things that have happened so people can totally relate. So what's going on?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
So I was really thinking about this conversation and a lot came up just leading up to it. And then this morning when I was thinking about it, I really came into pivots prosperity and purpose, and those three words kept coming up together, especially in the realm of people pleasing. So that was what was going on, especially people pleasing with friends and family and partnerships and being a parent.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Okay, great. So if you can get specific around an actual instance that happened, what happened specifically that is an example of a place that you got triggered or a place that you felt like there was financial or money abuse?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Something that came up specifically last week was when I went to Florida and my mom came and there was something that happened with the rental car where I had prepaid and then she went off and created this other payment later. Then I got charged the next day for a bill of $750. I told her I did pay for the rental car ahead of time. This was something extra. If you had called me up to the rental car place, I could have dealt with this. And the way she kind of responded was she got upset that I brought in my partner to talk about the financials of whether we could cover that right now. So it was interesting just to want to bring him out of it. And then also she's like, well, can't you ask your dad for that money? Which is a really convoluted, deep subject. And I know that that was just a moment. We haven't really talked since that was last week and there's been some moment, and I feel like that's just the tip of an iceberg of a lot of entitlement with finances and cutting out partners and deeper stuff with me and people. Please. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
One, I just want to acknowledge you for recognizing it's much more than just that. That's just a symbol of something much deeper as the healing of your entire family, which I really get your intention here. I can feel it deeply in you. So I know that you do a lot of spiritual work, and so I know that it all comes down to the trauma within our lineage and what's really going on. And so us personally in our own kind of suffering around it, we want people, places and things to be different. We want our mothers to be different. So we have to know, first of all, and this already that it's not about changing them because they may change and they may not change. It's about accepting them exactly where they are and taking full responsibility for our own emotions and our own whatever it is that we're choosing to create in our lives. So it'd be great if you could say, I can sit down with my mom and say, Hey, let's heal our entire family lineage, but most of the time it doesn't work like that. Okay, so let's take a look at, let's pretend that she didn't change at all, but the family dynamics are what they are. Just looking at what meaning and what limited beliefs are projecting into your side of the street. So when she does that, what meaning or what did it make you feel?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
I felt like I was seen as just a product of my dad's money. And that's something I've been combating with for a long time, and I've always really tried to make my own path and I get brought back into this money story, and I also saw a lot of that triangle, that victim, perpetrator, rescuer concept of where I try to rescue my mom and where that's actually created more trauma for all of
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Us. So it sounds almost like you feel like you're being manipulated or used for some type. You're entangled in the effect of whatever's happening between your mom money and your father, whatever. Is that what I'm hearing you say? Yes. Yeah. Okay. I totally get that. I totally get that. And we recognize that all of life is designed for us to awaken to the truth of who we are. So we as divine goddesses stepping into our divine hood instead of our human hood, whether that occurred or didn't occur, we wouldn't necessarily take it personal. We would realize that those are their issues going on. A healed person would come into that situation and be like, man, that sucks that my mom is still manipulating and doing all that, but it really has nothing to do with me and that I choose from this moment to create whatever I want, whether that be making sure that I don't get that car rental before I make sure everyone's deposited their amounts or whatever it is or not tee myself up for the same situation over and over again. It sounds like this has happened multiple times
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And then just to use, well, I bought the ticket, which was a birthday present for me. I wouldn't have done that if I had to cover the car rental too. And so it kind of feels like the gifting and then it's pulling back and the money. And the hardest part about that whole thing is I maybe normally could have rescued her in the past, but because actually I have reached too deep into a lot of my future inheritances with the money to build my yoga studio and all the renovations and buying that building, I actually chose to and with my father too, we just chose to let it be right now, which really helps me for the first time be resilient in my own finances. And the truth is, I'd almost, I mean, I don't want this for the future, but I'd almost rather be broke and sober into my finances and not just continue to rescue my mom or rescue other people and be sovereign about my finances rather than just getting money and not feeling I guess worthy of it and then dishing it out to someone else. So it was just a really big wake up call for my own relationship with finances and family and people pleasing. So there's a lot that I've been juggling in my own mind with that.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Okay, great. So look, you're highly evolved and just the fact that you can see all that says a lot about all the work that you've done. So it's not like you're a beginner going, I don't see how I'm not the effect of everything. You get that it's all showing up for your growth and showing up for you to remember who you are. So what do we do about this now? Okay, here's the situation. I have some resentment around it. I'm feeling really disjointed from my mother and father and family or whatever it is. I financially am having the effects of all this. So what do we do from here? Okay,
Speaker 2 (07:24):
And tell me.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Yeah, right. Well, we know it's really the steps of recovery. It doesn't matter if you're in a 12 step or whether you're just doing spiritual recovery, it's all the same work. The foundation of all the work is the same. So the first step, of course is to become aware and decide, powerfully decide, Hey, I'm ready to heal and end this vicious cycle. So are you ready to end the vicious cycle?
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Yes. On New Moon too. So perfect.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Right? Really though, like girlfriend. Girlfriend,
Speaker 2 (07:52):
And I've been writing my whole story up to this point of just how many times I've pivoted in Covid and everything and the family and it's just like it's all getting up to this moment. I feel it.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Great. Yeah, I totally feel that. Okay. So the second step we know is reprogramming the subconscious mind because we can try and manage everything and try and do our spiritual practice and all that. That's beautiful and we need to do that deep, deep work. It sounds like you've done a lot of trauma work, but there's still some charge going on. So we need to know is that from past things that have gone on or is this a current thing that's being triggered? So if there's anything from the past that we aren't fully as Zi it like something happened with our mom or dad or situation when we were a kid and we still have resentment or we still feel upset when we think about that, that means it's not fully healed. So we have to take full responsibility for our emotions coming into the present moment. So it means we need to keep people think, well, I've done my trauma work. Well, you've done some trauma work. I mean, it takes a long time to really get in there and go through the whole track of all lifetimes. So my suggestion to you to meet to everybody is to make sure that anything in our past is complete, that we can look at it and say, that wasn't easy, but I'm not getting emotional about it, or I'm not getting reactive about it. So that's first is to fully decide that we are ready to end this vicious cycle. The second is to reprogram the subconscious mind, which all through trauma work, and it means a deep, deep, deep dive into lineage trauma. Next is we want to birth your truth, Chelsea. So what is your truth? And oftentimes these upsets are the perfect thing to say, what is your truth? So what is your truth? Let's pretend that your mother and father and the whole family never changed truth around finances, around who she wants to be in the realm of money and finances when it comes to her family.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Yeah, it's interesting. My dad has said to me, he's like, if you don't want to be wealthy, you don't have to. And I'm like, that could be the furthest from the truth. I know it's my birthright to be so prosperous and show people that they can truly be prosperous getting in touch with their spiritually divine mission. So that is my truth. I am a coach for sacred scheduling for Sophia Code circles their truth and be well doing
Speaker 1 (10:05):
It. But as far as your family, do you want to show up and be somebody that says, Hey, I'm going to just make sure that I come in and be responsible for my emotions, therefore it means I'm going to make sure everyone's paid money before I do for something, or am I going to be something that comes in and I'm just going to pay for everything. I'm not going to have anything around it. That doesn't mean you should do that, or I'm going to be somebody that doesn't entangle at all with my family with money. Who do you want to be? There's no right or wrong answer. It's what is Chelsea's truth?
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I want to be someone who can come in and, I mean, there's times, there's a time for me to pay. There's a time for my father to pay, there's a time for my mother to pay. And it's, it is really clear, and it's coming from a place of true giftedness if there is a gift being offered,
Speaker 1 (10:52):
But knowing that they don't change, that you're the only one that changes. So if you feel like they should pay, then that means you're controlling them of how? So who does Chelsea want to come in in the finances in this family? Let's pretend they keep manipulating. They pretend they don't change, they pay or don't pay or whatever. Who do you want to be? How are you going to hold your boundaries for yourself?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Pay for myself, my nanny, my family. I want to come in over the top, financially prosperous, to be able to pay for all the pieces that are involved in any sort of travel that has to do with my business, my coaching, my trainings, support, anyone who wants to support helping me and my family as we make
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Those. And this truth that we birth that is basically lining to our truth. There's ultimate truth, which is there's only abundance in the universe, but there's relative truth to say, Hey, I choose to spend my money how I choose to spend my money. And each person gets that divine. And that relative truth may shift. Maybe right now you're not able to pay for everything with your family, but maybe through faith and faith and hard work, if you will, you'll be able to do that. So that relative truth may change. But the point of having this relative truth is for the boundaries for us to put ourselves, for us to take responsibility around our own emotions. So when I come into my family, say, my family, there's issues with money like yours or something, which there's not, but there's other issues. So let's pretend that's that. I would say, who do I need to be to not have resentment? So that means I'm not going to put something on my credit card, I don't know what the other person's going to do, so I'm not going to do that because then I'm going to set myself up for resentment and animosity and anger. So what is the truth for you for right now to show up fully in your family? Maybe that is pain for everything or maybe that's putting boundaries on that. What is that for you?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
For me, it's just making wise decisions on what I can and can't do based on my financial reality and not putting other people in positions where it could create that.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Totally get that. Okay. So we've decided we're fully ending these cycles. We're committed to doing our inner work so we can show up as present without anything from the past being dragged in from our perspective. Third is aligning to that relative truth for Chelsea, for her to say, this is my truth and this is how I'm going to take responsibility. So I am responsible for my emotions and I don't want to get upset, so therefore I'm not going to put myself in a position that most likely is going to end me in being upset. And then the fourth step we know is affirming. It's affirming in our daily spiritual practice. So in this right, merging with the divine, merging with the goddess that Chelsea is, right, who do you want to be? Be in the embodiment of who you show up for your family, for your parents in particular, right? For money in particular. Who is it that Chelsea decides powerfully to affirm everyday in your spiritual practice?
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Prosperous. I'm on purpose and I am wealthy, well and healthy and can support the fullness of everything I want to create in this world.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Beautiful. And who do you want to be when your parents show up? Manipulating and money.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I want to feel really sovereign in everything I'm already creating and that I can make those without feeling manipulated at all.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Right. Okay. So this is the practice, daily practice and for us to have support and have a daily spiritual practice to remember our commitment for our sovereignty, for who we want to be, for our commitments of our boundaries. And then what I suggest is at the beginning of the day, you go over these daily spiritual practice and who you want to be in the embodiment. And at the end of the day, I suggest that you go and you take inventory. Did I show up in my sovereignty or did I react? Did I hold my boundaries or did I put myself in a position that was basically not taking responsibly for my emotions? And we want to make amends to ourselves and to others each day so that when we put our head to the pillow, we can know that we grew today, that we did the best, and that we ask for our highest self, for us to step fully into the goddess and divine woman that we've always desired to be. Not for anybody else, but for our own dignity and our own strength. How does that sound? Sounds great. Amazing. So what would you like to declare today beyond what you already said? Let's do a spiritual mind treatment together, and I'm just honored to be here with you today, and I know all this is sometimes fluffy in that it's easier said than done, and that's why we call it a practice. So what would you like to declare into the universe, into your subconscious mind, into the divine mind that is one with your parents right now,
Speaker 2 (15:18):
I declare that I have a beautiful and also sovereign relationship with my family and in my relationships, and I commit to showing up for my daily spiritual practice every day to create that
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Beautiful. So let's take a deep breath together. Take a deep breath. I'm just recognizing the perfection of universal law. I'm recognizing that everything is out picturing with perfection for Chelsea that every last drop of life is showing her where her mind is divided, where she is not using it in the righteousness of knowing that she can never be the effect of anything, that she's a creator of. Everything that I recognize, wherever her parents are, that that is a part of who she is. She is her parents and her parents are her. They're one. And the only divisive thing in mind is through the mental universe. And so I know that this is the universe surfacing to have her remember who she is. She's the one she's been waiting for. She's the sovereign. She's the ending of all vicious cycles. She is the parent and the child. She is that she is the I am that I am. And in this I say thank you for this breakdown for the breakthrough. Thank you for demanding Chelsea to come back home to truth every single day and every breath and every single way. Thank you for the divine communities that we all have to support ourselves in knowing truth. Thank you so much. I declare by the power of my word, the freedom of Chelsea to step up into the highest highest of her divine goddess right here, right now. It is done as together we say. And so it is. So it is. And so it is. Thank you so much. So many people are going to love to hear this because we've all gone through that, especially with money. For sure. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
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In this week's episode, we have an anonymous caller who found her husband cheating on her five years ago and still hasn't been able to forgive him.
She doesn't know how to stop their vicious cycle of arguments, upsets, and fights.
In this episode, we breakdown the difference between trying to manage a dysfunctional relationshiop vs. surrendering to a higher way.
We go through a divinely guided coaching session, assisting her to claiming her birthright of peace and liberation.
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How to spot your limiting beliefs that are patterning into your relationship
How to take responsibility for your emotional well-being
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dr. Erin podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth, your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity, I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe in you together we're awakening the world, okay? Today we have an anonymous caller, which is so courageous. I know that many of you out there are suffering in your sex lover relationship world. I personally suffered greatly for many years in codependency, and it became very shamed. It was almost embarrassing of the ups and downs I was having in my relationships after doing so much work and I was so confused. And so the intention of this call today is to really dive deep and have somebody courageously open their heart into actual details so that we can all relate and actually get acknowledged because all of us have had dark moments and dysfunctional moments in our relationship. So today, welcome, welcome, welcome. Come on in. Thank you. How are you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:19):
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
In our application, we talk about the different distinctions of narcissistic abuse, love or sex addiction, codependency or dysfunction, cheating or lying, alcoholism or drug addiction, financial or money abuse. And you put all of the above, which is so awesome. I just love people when they get like, oh my gosh, let's get into the mess of all of this. So if you wouldn't mind, would you mind getting into some of the actual details? What is the current upset right now for you?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Okay. So I think the biggest thing here is, okay, so five years ago I found text messages between my husband and a couple of other women. And then, so the reason why I had listed all of that, all of the above was because these things kind of came up. After that. It was like I kind of noticed, I don't know, the abuse and the sex addiction and all these other things, and then the I'm not enoughness and all of that. So yeah, so basically it kind of boils down to five years ago that day when I found those messages.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Wow. So five years, let's just get the impact of that for a minute. Just holding all the people that are suffering out there that have gone through different things of cheating line or big upsets or big traumas within a relationship. And so what we're going to do today and kind of breaking down from a universal law perspective and from the truth of who you are, okay? The truth is that you are none of these things. You're not the circumstances of your relationship. You are not somebody that's been cheated on. You're none of that. You're a divine spiritual being. But what we want to take a look at is the human side. So how's this actually been patterned out? Meaning did you put around this? We recognize that all of relationships are really the projection and the reflection of the limited beliefs within ourselves. So how's this been? What meaning have you put on this for yourself?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
I guess I would say the meaning I've put on myself was that I'm not good enough or I'm not enough. Shortly after this happened, so at the time I was doing home daycare, and then shortly after going through all of this with my husband, I closed my daycare. I was not happy doing it anyway, and then I was like, I hired a spiritual business coach. So I was like, I'm going to do my own thing. And I never finished it. Since then, I've just never followed through with anything. I kept feeling like, I can't do it. I'm not enough, I'm not skilled enough. And then since then, yes, I've just kind of been a stay at home mom. I don't make any income, so it's starting to play out okay. I feel like I'm a burden on him now because the financial stress has been mostly is put on him, so he's feeling like, yeah, so that's another piece of it.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
I wanted to say thank you again for sharing your heart. Okay. So what happens, I'm curious to know before this happened, clearly this was a trauma when you found these text messages because probably anyone in our culture would find that very traumatic and the meaning we put on that and the meaning that we place about ourselves of not being enough and stuff. So I'm going to consider that a trauma, but let's just take the patterning before that. I'm curious to know before that situation with your husband and then the patterning of other relationships, what would you say was the patterning? Meaning? There's a hack to this. When we take a look in our relationships, we know that everything's created within the mind. Everything's created within thyself, and everything's projected out in a self-fulfilling prophecy. And that doesn't mean that you called in somebody that cheated or text somebody else, but what that means is what is the meaning that we placed around it?
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Meaning if somebody had really high self-esteem and their partner was texting somebody else, or even let's pretend that they actually cheated, they might say, Hey, that really sucks that you did that. You went out of your own integrity and you must be really hurting, or something must not be fulfilled within. The healthy person would not necessarily take it personal and make the meaning that I'm not enough, but we're human, and it'd be almost impossible to not do that without massive development. So what we want to take a look at is what was going on before that happened and how you can do it as a hack. As you can say, he made me feel, he made me feel like I'm not enough. He made me feel like I was a burden. And so we can take a look at even before your marriage, what was patterning out in your other relationships? So what was that pattern? What did those other relationships make you feel as well?
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Wow, that's a hard question. I think just allowing, I was allowing myself not to be treated the way I wanted and respected the way that I wanted to. I just let things, oh, it's not worth a fight. It's not worth it. And I just kind of tuck myself under my feeling stuff under the,
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Okay. I mean, the core limited to belief for all of us is I'm not enough. The core limited to belief of human beings is I'm not enough. So if we know that life is a masterclass and everything is designed to help develop us in our coming back home to the truth of who we are, which is an all knowing, all loving, powerful, spiritual being, then all these circumstances are basically demanding us to either to rise to the occasion, we're either going to succumb and be the effect of everything, or we're going to rise into our divine powers. And what I know for you is that you are that. And I absolutely know that no matter if there was text or cheating or the worst things ever that has happened, I'm knowing that for you in consciousness right now. Okay. So what do we do from here? Okay, so here, this happened five years ago. And my question for you is, are you really, I mean, you're here, you're courageously here telling details, right? So do you mind me asking what was actually on those texts just so that people can get people a little bit of drama? Okay. That's just the reality. Yeah. What was on those texts? Did he actually cheat? What was the actual moment when you realized that this happened?
Speaker 2 (07:29):
So I do consider it cheating. I dunno. It was just really flirty and dirty and just saying things to them that I've never even heard 'em say to me. And just, yeah, it was gross. I don't know if I want to share.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Okay. It
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Was asking to see things and just really dirty, flirty, going back and forth and then trying to connect for lunch. And I can't really tell by the texts if they did collect, connect to go have lunch or dinner. But yeah, so that's that. Yeah,
Speaker 1 (08:07):
I totally get it. Okay. So just to relate, I was in a very much of a narcissistic abuse relationship with a famous rockstar, and it was up and down, and I found he cheated multiple times when he fell off the wagon, he was an alcoholic addict as well. And it was so heartbreaking and for so long I really felt like he did this right. And as I began to do more and more of my work and realize that I would've never been in that relationship and I would've never stayed in that relationship. And I'm not saying for you to leave your marriage by any means because your husband may be in a much better place than my partner was. But I realized that it was really the universe showing up for me to develop me in my own and in getting really clear of my own principles and what my core values were and what I was willing to put up with or not so that I could create a life that was really in alignment with my truth. So I'm curious to know today, it sounds like obviously you guys have not healed, and so clearly it must be out picturing on a day-to-day, week to week basis. So how is that out picturing now in your arguments, in your disconnection, in the patterns within your relationship now?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Yeah, I guess just the way, so when he is like, I don't know, not in the greatest mood, and it's like anything I say, it could be anything and he'll just fly off the handle and start going off on me, and then I don't even defend myself most of the time. So there's that. And then there was one time a few weeks ago actually, where we both had probably a little bit too much to drink, and then, I don't know, we just kind of blew up and we talked about how there is no passion in our relationship. What are we going to do and what do you really want? Do you even want to be here? And then I kind of told them when I saw those messages and what you did to me is I now am with this person that I don't know who you are. I've been with him for 22 years and now I'm figuring out I don't know who you are and I don't know how to be your wife the way you want me to, or yeah. So I just kind of said all that and then, yeah, I dunno. When we woke up the next morning, it was, I don't know, we both really felt like we needed to heal each other. It was nice, but it was at the same time, we didn't really resolve anything. We just kind of,
Speaker 1 (10:49):
So I believe this is a divine appointment for you and for me and for everything. And I wanted to say that I know you guys must have great love for each other to be together for 22 years and also recognize the vicious cycles that human beings get into and how we're not equipped with the ability to know how to handle it and how to break the cycles. So I'm just feeling a lot of compassion for you and your husband, really, truly, and we do all make mistakes at different times, and we also go into fight or flight, so the reactions that happen throughout the week or days or months of that vicious cycle of him flying off the handle, you shutting down. We all have our patterns of how we handle things, but we're basically, we're going into fight or flight into that system that is almost like we don't even have a choice in that system. It just happens. It turns on and then everyone does all their damage, and then we come back out and we're like, wow, I'm sorry. I'm sorry too. How do we do this? We love each other. So what I'm hearing from you is that you really do love your husband and he really does love you, but you don't know how to get out of the living hell of the patterns that you guys have created for yourselves. Is that kind of what I'm hearing from you?
Speaker 2 (11:56):
That's like bang on? Yes.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Okay, so one, I just want to disclose to the audience, I'm not a traditional therapist. I'm a doctor divinity that, and really how we heal is through revealing truth. So I'm not here to manage, okay, so I always say the same metaphor. It's like having a table and the table on top of it is all the issues, and we try and rearrange everything on top of the table. Like, oh, if you just communicate better, oh, if you just listen to him and validate him and then don't make him wrong, and all those things, or what's the story you have around it and retell your story? Those are all things that we're moving around on the table on the top, which I believe don't truly work. They help a little bit, but they never actually stop the vicious cycle. My job is to go down onto the bottom of the table, down onto the floor and get the foundation of each individual for them to get stabilized in truth.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Okay, so what does that look like for you? And this is like a heart to heart, woman to woman, sister to sister, spirit to spirit. Right now I care about you. And it just literally, I just want to cry because I know so many people suffer every day and we all want to love so bad. We want to love our partners, we want to love our best friends, and there's these patterns that we get into. So I believe that this is the only fix to this, and it is your relationship with your higher self that when we get steeped in that beloved divine with, you could say God's source within divine, whatever it is, the label that you put on it, and I honor each person's label because there is no label for the nameless, it's your higher self. And I believe that when we go into deep meditation or prayer to the self or whatever it is to merge into the oneness because you and your husband are one, you guys are literally one.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
You guys are literally equally playing out the dynamics of healing each other's wounds and the wounds are there with perfection. He fulfills it exactly perfect to fulfill upon your limited beliefs of I'm not enough and he is fulfilling upon something. I'm not enough and therefore I'm a perpetrator, or whatever it is. Most of our dynamics of the men and women in our culture is the women become the victims, the men become the perpetrators, but actually they're equally the same. Interesting. Yeah. Okay, so what's the answer? The answer is multiple fold. I think you guys need to decide, do you really want to actually break these patterns and the other person doesn't necessarily need to agree to that? You are going to heal yourself regardless. He will rise to the occasion or not. It can't be contingent upon him wanting to heal. This is an individual job, and when you decide I decide that I want to heal, that means you taking a hundred percent responsibility for who you want to show up in the world and in this relationship, and that you release him of any need to make you happy to do what you expect him to do.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
You're basically releasing him of everything, and you are taking it back to source within to know that that's your only source for your love, for your joy, for your fulfillment, for any expectations, and it's kind of like a dying of the self into the divine woman that you were born to be. How does that feel for you?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
That sounds so beautiful and so empowering and the person I want to be. Yes,
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I know. And it's so much easier said than done, right? Yes. So universal law will teach us over and over again that your subconscious mind is one with your neurological system. It's one with the brain, and if we through a trauma, whether it be the time that you saw those texts or it's probably actually came way before that, and multiple lifetimes of feeling like, I'm not enough and I'm divided. That's our core thing. So the neurological system just reaffirms everything. Again, if somebody that was kind of fully empowered saw those texts from their husband, it might be like, Ooh, this is really stings. But they would know, wow, this is really showing where we are disconnected. This is really showing his own insecurities that he needs to go seek from other women, and this is really showing of how broken this marriage is. They wouldn't necessarily take it as, I'm not enough. They would see it as the out-picturing of the collective of the entire marriage.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Yes, I a hundred percent agree because I did say to him, how do I know you're not going to do this again? And I said to myself, if anything like this does ever happen again, I am a sovereign being. I know that this is the end. This is like, sorry, you made a mistake. Yes, I understand you're in a dark place and there's a lot of other stuff going on too. His mom passed away a few years before that, and that was really hard for him. But it is just like, okay, I get it. It's like, if that's your thing, that's your thing. Now it's time for me to really move on. I would not ever accept anything like that again.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
So woman to woman, again, this is the greatest masterclass of a gift that the universe has given to you in my opinion, and the reason why is because if we want to break these cycles, we have to rise in our consciousness to become such badass consciousness that we become the queen. If we want to be considered the queen by our partner, we have to become the queen, so the divine queen or the goddess, whichever you prefer, because some people may prefer the word goddess, is somebody who truly is sovereign in knowing that they create their emotions and that everything is released from their partner. It is the most advanced practice on this planet, as far as I'm concerned. It's way harder than being single and just being a conduit for source and for divine that these relationships are the most advanced masterclass on this planet. So I know you must be a very, very powerful spiritual being to call in such an advanced masterclass. Thank you. Yeah. I really, really know that for you. Okay, so let's make a plan. You ready to make a plan? One, I just want to ask you on a level of one to 10, 10 meaning that you are fully ready to become the goddess and heal yourself, not heal you and your husband because you don't have control over that per se, but heal yourself.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Yeah. That's a 10.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Okay, great. You're ready to break the negative cycle from your side of the street? Yes. Okay, great. What are you willing to do for it? This has nothing to do with me, nothing to do with working with it. What are you willing at a soul level, at a heart level to do for this?
Speaker 2 (18:37):
I don't answer that. Whatever it takes, I guess I can't really specifically say one thing. I don't know what that is.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
Great. It's something to contemplate within yourself in meditation, contemplated meditation. What are you willing to do for this? Okay. The true work is to, as we say, die of the self, die of the divided ego itself and be reborn into the true identity, the I am the oneness, the goddess that you are. Okay. What we have to be willing to do is to really give up everything we've known and to give up and forgive. Forgive ourselves, forgive our partners, to give up the holding on to resentment, to give up all of that, everything that we thought we were and come into a divine presence every single day. What is your spiritual practice? Do you have a practice right now?
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Yeah. So when I get up in the morning, my morning routine kind of thing? Is that what you're asking?
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Yeah. Just a spiritual practice, whatever it is for you to have a relationship with your higher self.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Yeah. Okay. So I wake up in the morning, hands on my heart, and I just kind of a little prayer to the universe or God and just thanking him, sending out gratitude and asking for clearing and protection, and then I'll kind of get ready, come to my altar,
Speaker 1 (19:58):
Beautiful
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Palo Santo, and I'll do either a silent meditation or a guided session.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Great, and how do you feel when you come out of that session for yourself?
Speaker 2 (20:08):
So it fluctuates. I sometimes feel like, Hey, that was like me. There's just another I just thing I do all the time, and then other days it's like, okay, I want to journal a little bit or I feel a little bit of shift. Okay, great.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Okay, so my prescription for you as a doctor, divinity, not a traditional doctor, I have a prescription for you. Okay. One is I would love for you to do your trauma work. Doesn't mean you have to do it with me. There's many people that do trauma work. Of course, eForce profound, but my as I would tell my best friend, please do your trauma work because trauma work is going to release the emotions around the thing that happened five years ago. Okay? It's going to release the emotions around it. It doesn't mean it forgives the whole thing and there's not action to take around it, but it releases the negative emotions that are making really the division in mind and the real triggers that happen all the time. So trauma work is imperative in E four trauma method, what we do is we don't just neutralize the charge around those traumatic incidents, but we actually look at what commands.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
You decided what limited beliefs. I'm not enough. I'm a burden, right? Something's wrong with me, whatever that is. Those commands, and we pull 'em up from the subconscious so they're not just playing out on rote like puppet strings in your life. What we also do is we make new declarations and we begin to powerfully program positive things into the subconscious mind. So that's a prescription I really, really want for you to do your trauma work, wherever that is, whatever it calls for you. Okay? The next thing is I invite you to go much deeper in your spiritual practice. Whether that means joining a meditation group or getting trained in meditation or finding your local meditation place or whatever it is in general, it's very hard for people to do it alone. I would invite you to, or maybe it's an app, but maybe it's something not just guided meditations.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
At some point in time, we need to go into the actual silence. The only way we truly merge with our higher self is through total silence, even beyond mantra. So those are the two prescriptions that I have for you to be able to come to this higher self. The thing that people need to know also is I would never tell somebody to get divorced, and I would never tell them to break up. However, if your arguments are so strong in your marriage that you're getting re-traumatized, then what we say and say even like a 12 step program or codependency, is we actually want people to leave their environment just while they heal. So oftentimes people don't really tell us how bad it really is, and you don't need to say that here or not, but as your friend, again, if it's getting so bad and it's not just upsets like it's raging fights, then what I would recommend is for people to go into different environments, to be able to do their healings so that they can heal, and then they can come back in together to be able to know what's really going on over here versus my healing.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Okay. Okay. So how does that sound for you?
Speaker 2 (23:18):
That sounds great. Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Okay, great. So let's do a spiritual mind treatment, and knowing that the spoken word informs universal law, it informs the subconscious mind and it plays out the polarity in the universe. So what is it that you're ready to declare for your life and for your embodiment of truth?
Speaker 2 (23:39):
Empowerment.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Great.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah, I guess that's my, yeah, I just want to feel empowered. I want to be a powerful clean and stand in my power and know that when things are not maybe the way I want them to be, I can look within myself and know that I am divine.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Yes. Oh my gosh, yes. Okay, so let's take a deep breath together. You can put your hands together if you want. We do this just to really rub. There's like 70,000 neurons on the hands, and we're connecting the right and left hemisphere of the brain and all the neurological systems. So that's actually why we place the hands together on the heart, because we're connecting the heart with the head. We're connecting into that oneness, really easing into the neurological system, taking some deep breaths in, suspending the breath at the top, exhaling out, just coming as divine presence. I recognize right here, this divine goddess, I recognize this 22 years and the significance of the 22 years of the human hood, of this marriage, and in this, I recognize the perfection, the growth, and the relative experience for this divine couple and this divine goddess to come to truth.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
May they lay down the sword. May they lay down the sword and come revere to the beloved, divine within the divine and claim her goddesses right here, right now, coming into her dignity, coming into her strength, knowing that this is the decision right here, right now, and even in the law of growth. It may take some time to fully embody this in the out-picturing of her relationship and herself and the embodiment, but right here it is done. It is spoken into the one divine mind. It is spoken into the subconscious mind, which is the subjective mind, which hears infinitely and goes into an automated system. I declare by the power of my word, which is the creative factor of all of life, for this goddess to rise in her divine that she is, I simply know this. I see this perfect divine woman absolutely being a leader for her family, for her friends, and for the entire globe, knowing that it is exactly what we want, which is love, the embodiment of love that is the goddess. I simply know this in the name of truth as together we say, and so it is.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Yes. May you have support? May you find a community that can support you in truth, may you break the cycle. May you absolutely do your trauma work, and may you absolutely have a profound spiritual practice to come back home each day to be able to live as the goddess that you are. Okay. Thank you so much for being so brave and so courageous. I really appreciate your heart.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Thank you. Oh my gosh, this is wonderful.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Thank you for tuning into the Dr. Erin podcast. If you're ready to reprogram your subconscious mind, transform your trauma and birth, your soul's calling, or if you're ready to become an accredited, certified spiritual psychology coach and E4 trauma method facilitator, and get trained in spiritual psychology, universal law, intergenerational trauma, work, past life, regression work, metaphysics of mind, and so much more, go to DrErin.tv. If you're receiving value from the show, I would love it if you share it with a friend and give it a five star review. Have a beautiful day, and may you live your truth.
In this week's episode, Liz is struggling to start dating again after giving up on dating.
She doesn't know if she is intuitively feeling like she isn't connecting with anyone or if she is just shut off.
In this episode, we breakdown the difference between giving up on dating and staying open to receive all dimensions of love.
We go through a divinely guided coaching session, assisting her to pattern interupt and stay in her divine presence.
What you will learn in this episode:
How to distinquish between past emotional baggage vs. intuition
How to surrender to a higher-way of loving
How to take responsibility for your emotional well-being
In this week’s podcast, we are diving into Sex, Love, & Recovery!
In this episode, I'm talking about how to start dating when you've given up on dating. ✨
Sex, Love, & Recovery Series...
⚡ Are you ready to break your negative relationship patterns?
⚡ Are you ready to live on spiritual principles and no longer make your partner wrong?
⚡ Are you ready to align with your highest vision and magnify your love frequency?
Anorexia Love Addiction: This is a pattern of completely stopping dating past the point of taking a healthy break from dating. It is similar to an anorexic who completely stops eating and, in turn, hurts themselves from nutrients they need. We need love and connection for mental health.
Disclosure: We do not believe in 'titles' of addiction or dysfunction. However, we make the distinction of titles for people to understand the human vicious cycles so they can rise above them.
Relationships can be challenging, even highly successful people struggle in there relationships. Approximately 9 out of 10 relationships have challenges and problems. Our culture has been ill-programmed with romantantic movies, dysfunctional families, and sexual objectification. In my opinion, we are spiritually bankrupt as a culture and our relationships are suffering because of it.
The coaching sessions on the podcast are not Spiritual Psyhology Coaching sessions nor are they E4 Trauma Method® sessions. The podcast is for call-in's and are not real coaching sessions. In Spiritual Psychology Coaching sessions we go into deep soul work, where we reprogram the subconscious mind via E4 Trauma Method® regressions and past-life regressions. We birthing the clients relative truth and discover their soul's purpose. Also, the guests on the podcast show are not in our membership or in our accredited coaching programs.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dr. Erin Podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth, your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity. I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are, and I believe in you together, we're awakening the world. Okay? Our next caller is Liz. She's in from Fort Lauderdale. We actually met at the yoga Expo a little while back, and I'm super excited to dive deep into this conscious conversation around love and sex as well, and relationship recovery. So how are you, Liz? What's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Well, well, thank you so much for having me. I'm such a fan. I love your work.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
It's so beautiful what's going on. We all struggle with relationship. It's one of our biggest, it's on our heart for all of us. We want to have beautiful, intimate relationships, and everyone struggles, all the leaders as well. We all have to live on principle. So thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your heart with us today. What's going on?
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Yes, absolutely. Well, so I've been single for the last four years. I have not even been on a date, so I'm very rigid and I'm trying really hard to break out of that. For me, it's either zero or a hundred, and I guess I just don't connect with men on that level. It's really rare and everyone always gives me such a hard time about it, but I don't even know if I can even explain it. It's either I have to be really interested and invested and feel that chemistry or I don't want anything to do with it. And so it's challenging. It's challenging because I'm like, is it just, and I have these ideals, of course I have just an idea of who my person is, but I'm like, is that not realistic? Does he not exist? Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
So let's break this down because one, I want to say that I took some years off of dating myself, and I'm not going to give you the traditional jargon today. And there may be people listening in like, oh my gosh, that's awful that she's doing it. Other people are going to be listening and saying, oh yeah, everyone needs to have time on their own, whatever. So what I do is I'm not give advice, okay? It's against my ethics as a coach, but what I'm going to do is I'm going to bring us back to spiritual principle for you to birth your own relative truth. But I first want to get a little bit more. I have some more questions. Okay. So in the last four years, have you not dated at all or you've dated, but just not interested in it?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Not at all. At all. No one has piqued my interest. I haven't even given my number to anyone. It's been zero non-existent, crickets, nothing.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Okay, cool. Okay, cool. And do you mind me asking how old you are? Not that matters, but I'm just curious. I'm trying to get a picture around all of it.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Yes. I just turned 36, 2 weeks a week ago.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Okay, cool. You have one of those looks. I can't tell if you're early twenties or close to four because you have one of those ageless looks to you. You know what I mean? Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yes, totally. Very young face.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Okay, so let's dive into this one. On a scale from one to 10, meaning getting really vulnerable, okay, you're talking to yourself in the mirror. Okay. Would you say that you were like, I am just completely content. It's almost like something's wrong with me, I don't need it at all. Or is it I really want relationship, but something is, would you feel like you're totally content in this, or do you feel like you're really kind of suffering because you aren't having intimacy
Speaker 2 (03:47):
At this point? Well, I'm content. I'm very happy. I have feeling life. I want it. It's been so long and to the point where I'm suffering a bit because I miss it been years.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Okay, great. Thank you for being honest and real. There was a point in my years of not dating at all where I literally was like, I am one with the universe and I really just don't even miss it. But then there was a shift also where I began to go, oh, it would be nice to have a beautiful divine partner. Okay, I'm hearing that's where you're at. It's not total suffering, but there's definitely like, okay, let's live a human. We're here for this human masterclass, not just our divine masterclass, right?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Yes, absolutely. I'm like, alright, universe. I've done the solo thing. It's been great. I've traveled, I've had fun, but now it's like I don't want to do this alone anymore.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yeah. Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I think we stuff it down so much sometimes and we pretend like it's all good and I'm all good, but when we actually get real with ourselves, we're like, well, it's not actually how I want to live. Exactly.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
One, I want to acknowledge you because I think it's only 26% of people are actually in long-term relationship. So what you're going through, many, many people are going through. So I don't think people even acknowledge and realize how many single people and alone people. There's a lot of loneliness in our culture because even if we're alone, we may not even have a real big support system as well. So I'm just holding you as a voice for millions and millions. So again, thank you for coming here today. Okay, so let's break this down. So anytime I'm dealing with a couple single person, it's always going to be the same core work, which is what is the false identity that is projecting into our relationships? Our lack or our relationships or marriage doesn't matter. It's the identity. So when it comes to love and relationship, what do you just intuitively feel? Are your limited beliefs, your identity around relationship?
Speaker 2 (05:58):
I think a part of doesn't believe that that person is, I believe that maybe my ideals just aren't realistic and no one is going to be able to match that. So okay, great.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
So traditional, maybe people would say, oh, well, let's just get rid of those limited beliefs. And that's not true, and the perfect partners out there, but I'm going to play this a little bit different. Let's pretend that there is not a perfect partner. Let's pretend that that is a bit delusional to think that one person could fulfill all your needs, all your expectations, and that you're right. Let's just pretend that for a minute. Knowing that knowing, let's just take it on. We're playing a caricature in a play. We're going to try in those clothes, a new piece of clothing. There's no perfect person out there. Who does Liz want to be in her expression of love and intimacy.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I want to free and loving and empowered and happy.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
And when I say that, I don't necessarily mean, Hey, go out and just sleep with somebody and be free and be happy, whatever. I think that there's a dance, right? Because I'm very much the same. I can get into that all or nothing. There needs to be the perfect person, otherwise I'll just not do anything knowing that there might not be that perfect person, but there also maybe isn't just let go of all morals and principles for yourself and be expressed. So where's that dance? Keeping Liz safe in a sacred space, but a place where she can be expressed intimately and doesn't deny herself that for the rest of her life, what could that look like from a place of possibility?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Yes. Yes. And that's what I'm trying more to do. So I'm so rigid, it's just so challenging for me. I'm like those on a nun in a past life. I'm like, no, girl.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
We're like sisters. I feel like my girlfriends are the same. We're born to be nuns. We don't even relate to end of this stuff, but we're here for our human masterclass.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Yes, exactly. And that's just feeling free and just being in the moment and enjoying it and savoring those moments and just enjoying and being present without me being like, no, this isn't what I feel like. This isn't what I, I'm picturing, so this is acceptable, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Okay, so I'm going to bring it back. I so relate to you. You have no idea. There's certain types of women, and I know that we're a type in that we're almost like nuns, and we really love that divine just feeling of oneness. And so this is how I've learned to play with it a little bit within myself and my girlfriends that are almost like nuns in relationship play with it a little bit. So what we do is this, is we end up making it a place for our spiritual practice development, meaning that in relationship, my mind can easily go and find everything wrong with a partner, with my partner. But then I go, okay, so if I'm living on spiritual principle, I'm going to focus on what is great about my partner, what their strengths are, and I'm going to build upon that. So let's just pretend that you just start dating, okay?
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Okay. They are not necessarily worthy of you becoming intimate with them. You don't know them, you haven't built enough there. But what you can do is you can practice focusing on what you do about them, whether they become friends. So what would be a spiritual practice? I know you love this stuff. I know this, right? I know you love the spiritual practice. So even in the dating world, what is a practice that you want to bring into in the embodiment of not making them wrong, focusing on the vision? What would be a practice you could practice even on a first date?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Yes, maybe definitely being just in the present moment, just fully embodying the moment and not, because we all have this, just being there and accepting the moment for what? And yes, just accepting the moment for what it is, because I'm very intuitive, so I already know this going to work. Okay, goodbye. I've checked out. So instead of that, it's like, okay, it going to work, but I'm having a good time and really, I dunno, night and just accepting the moment for what it is and not letting my get in the way of that.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Okay, great. So this is an actual plan I had to do when I was codependent and I was in very dysfunctional relationships. Then I needed to take this gap just like you. I had to take a gap. I had to have no dating because I needed to know who I was without the ups and downs of my relationship. And as soon as I got stabilized within myself, then I was like, okay, I want to go and begin to be in relationship again. And so one of the plans, we make a plan in relationship of the principles that we wanted. So one plan would be a potential for you is to say, I am not on the first date going to say, is this someone I could live with for the rest of my life? Because I would do the same thing and I would go, oh my gosh, this is a no.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Or it would be a clean onto like, oh my gosh, this could be my one. Right? So it was like the practice was to say, I'm not going to think about the future. What would this person for at least the first say, three dates, because the universe may deliver us somebody that's completely out of what we in our own mini mind would think, or they may become our best friend. They may become somebody that we would want to introduce to somebody that we think they would love. Over here, we have no idea what the universe wouldn't bring us something into our life if it also could also be a lesson. Of course we know that. But for you, look, you know what you're doing isn't working. You've done it for four years. Okay, so let's take a look at what you do that is not on spiritual principle one, you look at all or nothing with somebody. Yes, it sounds like you're listening to your intuition. So that's good. You may just not have somebody delivered to you in four years. There's no problem with that. But now moving forward, one, you say you don't want to look at all or nothing, okay? What's another thing that you're living off of experience or principle, would you say?
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Sorry, currently that's not working.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, what do you do that you're like, oh my gosh, I do this right, where it's like my mind used to do the same thing where I think all or nothing with somebody on the first date has to be all or nothing. The first date,
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Yes. Something else. I guess I'm very closed off.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Okay. Yeah, I love that. Okay.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
Yeah, I'm very close off. I don't have any male friends because I guess subconsciously in my mind I'm like, if it's not my husband and I don't want any male connection. So I have zero male friends, I have a ton of girlfriends, so I'm already like, if this is not my husband, I don't want them in any capacity. I guess they can't be in my life any other capacity.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
So Liz, I'm going to play something that probably not one of your friends is playing with you, which is what if you're a hundred percent right? What if you're a hundred percent? What if intuitively none of these men have come into your life for the right one? What if intuitively you're supposed to just have some space and wait for your partner to come in? And the question I think I'd ask is, is there traumas that are holding you back or is it just from a pure space of saying, no, this is actually I need to take this time and none of these partners are my partner? So these are the two things, right? It's a hundred percent just pure space of I'm creating a holding space for my beloved to come into my life, or I have so much trauma and past stuff going on that I'm so closed off to allowing anybody to come into my life. Which do you think it is?
Speaker 2 (13:52):
I think it was probably a combination of both. And I would've liked to think that I have worked of course, and I'm sure I have a lot of more work to do, but I've gone through it. There's some abandonment. My mom left my sister and I in her home country for three years when I was three. So she took us here from the US to her home country and left us there. So from three to six, I was away from my mother. And I know that was a very pivotal time. So separations for me, breakups for me are devastating. I'm literally on the floor bawling to get over my uncle who I was extremely close to, just the best role model I could have had. He passed when I was around three. And I know that has affected me a lot. Again, my last relationship ended four years ago and we just weren't aligning anymore, and we had a great connection, but it took me probably two years to really fully work through it. So I do think probably a combination, but now I feel, yes, I feel like in a really good space, and I think it just hasn't happened. But yeah, there was a lot.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
It's a combination, which totally makes sense, all of it. And I think it's important to recognize that whatever we've created, we've created with perfection, that there's nothing bad of what you've created. There's nothing bad. It's all with total perfection. So oftentimes as a little girl, say, if you're three and your mother's gone, we learn through mirroring cells as we know. So if we're alone, and we often will actually, our identity a lot comes from how our parents are actually viewing us, how we see ourselves in our parents. So if our parents weren't there, and I don't want to put these words into your mouth, but it could look like something like out of the trauma work to take a look at it of I'm alone and my identity is I'm alone. So to break those identities takes some work, as you know. But I love how Warner Erhardt used to break down relationship years ago.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
He was one of the OGs in the seventies, and he would say that relationships are swimming. You can't learn to swim from sitting on the side of the pool. The only way to learn how to swim is to get in the deep end and flail around a little bit. So my invitation is to honor that part of you that needs to stay safe. So I would never say, Hey, go out and start sleeping with somebody or go do something, right? But my invitation is to get into relationship, meaning get into the dating world or get into whatever to help you begin to have a pattern interrupt basically. And to jump into that deep end, not necessarily giving your body over or doing something that is going to be traumatizing at a level, honoring your emotions. Because this is the deal. If a man or somebody who really does care about you and wants to get to know you and be intimate with you and you say, Hey, I'm responsible for my emotions.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I have some trauma, some stuff that comes from being alone as a young girl. So we can either go super slow or you're going to have to handle all these emotions that come with becoming intimate with me, right? For me, I dunno about you, but for me, it was easy for me to kind of not have attachment in relationship when there's not sexual because you're not energetically becoming one at a soul level. But when you open up to the sexual nature and it opens up a whole other level of emotion. So maybe one thing to consider would be to be responsible for your emotions, but still go into relationship and somebody cares about you would understand, hey, I don't just get parts of her. I get all of her. And that's the real hardest thing about relationship. If someone sees you, the darkest sides, the lightest sides, the great days, the crappy days, and it's really, really, it's courageous to go there, courageous to go there. And you're fine single also, it's okay to be single as well, but I know there's something in you that is desiring that and the seed of desire if it's only planted there, because that is what is being awoken to your next spiritual journey.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yes, yes, absolutely. And I agree. I agree. And it's something that, and I totally agree, that pattern breaking because I don't date, I don't do that and have to do something differently. Clearly what I'm doing, it's not working. And just to let go of all those attachments. And I love what you said about someone really caress and explaining that, Hey, I'm dealing with some past issues like be patient, be compassionate, and they should understand, otherwise it's not going to waste my time. But letting them know and giving them that option as well. Okay. If you don't agree with that, then you have that option to exit as well.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Yeah, my partner, when I met him, he did not want to be intimate either, because he knew with all sides that once you entangle a sexual level that's taking on a lot and you want to take some time to make sure, and I'm not here to give advice, so I honor anybody listening. And some people would disagree. Some people are fine with becoming intimate on the first date with somebody, and I honor wherever that is for each person. But I think that it's important for you to really feel into what feels right and what feels safe for you to honor that. So let's make a little bit of a dating plan. Okay, let's have fun with this. Let's make it into a fun game. So one, how are we going to get you to pattern intro it? One might be to go out with somebody that you normally would not go out with somebody totally outside of who you would typically date or how you'd go about dating. Maybe it would be you would never go on a dating app. Maybe it's time to go on a dating app, whatever that is. So my invitation just to play around in fun is to do something that you wouldn't typically do.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Okay. I like that. And
Speaker 1 (20:00):
That might be calling up your friends and saying, Hey, if there's somebody that you think I should go with, I would never ask my friends to send me up on a blind date. But if there's somebody, right? So I want you to think about one thing you can do that would be outside of your typical way of going about this.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Honestly, everything is probably outside of my typical way. I'm literally just waiting for the universe to drop me the person in front of me. I can ask my friends because I never do that. Okay, cool. Yes, I can definitely, I don't know, but I don't even have social media, so I don't feel comfortable with going on dating app yet. But I can definitely start with just your friends. Perfect With my friends, yes. Okay, perfect. And that's outside of my comfort zone for
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Sure. And then what is one practice that you want to have on the first, whatever, say three dates? What's one practice that you want to hold for yourself?
Speaker 2 (20:51):
I just want to be present. Okay, cool. Yeah, just be in the moment. Enjoy it for what it is. Like you said, it might turn into a longtime best friend. Maybe he's perfect for my neighbor, and maybe that's all it's meant to be, but I want to be in the moment for whatever. It's total surrender.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Okay, cool. So one more thing to play around in this game of opening up the heart, my invitation is for you to reach out for three events in the next whatever week or two. It could be something that you have with friends, that you go to something on Eventbrite, something to go to an event that you love. The intention of the event. For example, like you and I met at the Yoga Expo, right? Somewhere like that where people you would typically have things in common with of opening yourself up to meeting other people. And you might meet a girlfriend that opens you up to another friend that opens you up to your partner, right? Whatever that is. So let's call it in. Are you ready to call in? I'm not going to say the one. I'm going to say. Are you ready to call in being in flow with your divine nature of love and expression and connection and intimacy?
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
Okay, beautiful. Let's do this together. Let's do a spiritual mind treatment. Opening up the one mind to the divine mind, taking a deep breath in, and just knowing the beauty of Liz inside and out. I recognize this huge heart that she has and that little girl that was all alone and that she's whole and complete as she is. I recognize the completion of her coming home to herself as being her own best friend, the one she's been waiting for. And in this wholeness and in this completeness, I recognize the beauty of the expression to be, to express love, to connect, and to fully give herself an intimacy in friendships and with a partner that to truly see into herself through the eyes of the other, to be that for the others as well. And in this I know a perfectly expressed life of love with total sacred space. For her to know her own truth and her sexuality, and in whatever title she decides to put around it with her lover. And I just say yes to her living the most beautiful divine life. That's together, we say. And so it.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Well, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
You're so welcome. I'm excited. I think just for you to come on here is huge and just sets the energetics and motion of the subconscious mind and in the universal law. So it's already gone out. It's already been received by the divine mind. Your divine partner is already in the field. Truly and truly. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Yes, I accept it all.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
Yeah. Thank you so much for being vulnerable. Okay. Thank
Speaker 2 (23:28):
You for having me.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Yeah,
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Wonderful. I love you.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
I love you too. Have a beautiful, blessed day. Okay,
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Thank you. You too.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Thank you for tuning into the Dr. Erin podcast. If you're ready to reprogram your subconscious mind, transform your trauma and birth, your soul's calling, or if you're ready to become an accredited, certified spiritual psychology coach and E4 trauma method facilitator, and get trained in spiritual psychology, universal law, intergenerational trauma, work, past life, regression work, metaphysics, and mind, and so much more, go to soul soulciete.com or DrErin tv if you're receiving value from the show. I would love it if you share it with a friend and give it a five star review. Have a beautiful day, and may you live your truth.
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In a world where relationships matter, I want to help you break your negative patterns and become the highest version of yourself. It is time for us to take a quantum leap in our ability to LOVE.
So, here we go...
In this week's episode, Jennee is struggling to figure out why she is feeling overwhelmed and keeps running away from each person she begins to date.
How do you know when your past trauma is sabotaging the success of your relationship?
Versus...
How do you know when your intuition is telling you that this person is not the right person for you?
In this episode, we breakdown the difference between bringing your emotional baggage into your next relationship versus taking responsibility for your emotional baggage.
We go through a divinely guided coaching session, assisting her to remember the Spiritual Truth... she is LOVE.
What you will learn in this episode:
How to distinquish between past emotional baggage vs. intuition
How to surrender to a higher-way of loving
How to take responsibility for your emotional well-being
In this week’s podcast, we are diving into Sex, Love, & Recovery!
In this episode, I'm talking about how to know if your past trauma is sabotaging your relationship ✨
Sex, Love, & Recovery Series...
⚡ Are you ready to break your negative relationship patterns?
⚡ Are you ready to live on spiritual principles and no longer make your partner wrong?
⚡ Are you ready to align with your highest vision and magnify your love frequency?
Interesting Relationship Statistics
Relationships can be challenging, even highly successful people struggle in there relationships. Approximately 9 out of 10 relationships have challenges and problems. Our culture has been ill-programmed with romantantic movies, dysfunctional families, and sexual objectification. In my opinion, we are spiritually bankrupt as a culture and our relationships are suffering because of it.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dr. Erin podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth, your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity. I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe in you together, we're awakening the world. Okay? Our next caller is Jenny, and she's in from Steinbeck, Canada. How are you, Jenny? How are you? I'm
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Doing pretty good. Doing pretty good.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Amazing. So what's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, so I'm actually battling with some fear of abandonment and fear of rejection, both in friendships and then also in my relationships too.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Thanks so much for getting vulnerable today. It stated that something like nine out of 10 people struggle in relationship, and so I think all of us are kind of tipping on that dance of our divinity and being one with the oneness, but in our human hood and really struggling. And so thanks for being vulnerable today. For sure. So do you want to tell me specifically today, what is an actual situation, a challenge or specific relationship where it's out picturing into, yeah,
Speaker 2 (01:26):
So I'll totally go vulnerable with this. So I've kind of been halting on and off on dating apps, and so where it'd be like, okay, I'm going to go on there, and then I would sign up all over again, and then I would go through the process of swiping. And then, so I recently made a connection and we were talking, and then all of a sudden I got halted with a very strong, whoa, all they want is sex, or just from my past experience is too, so more of a, I got halted and I kind of went to just survival mode of whoa. And I just sent them a message of kind of survival. I don't mean kind of got shut down. Basically. I shut myself down.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I love that. So what I'm hearing you say is what we call, it's a matter of, it's a culmination of all the traumas and all the experiences that we've had in the past, the subconscious and our mind. We have so much information coming in. So I think that the relationship areas a really interesting area to take a look at of like, wow, how much baggage are we carrying in versus where's our intuition of what's actually happening here? And I think that's the struggle. It doesn't matter, even if you're single dating or married, we still pull in the baggage. So here what I'm hearing you say is that you get on the dating apps, you're like, okay, I'm going to do this. So many of us do, right? You get on there, you start swiping, and then you're like, what's the point? You maybe have a communication with somebody and then all the past kind of stuff comes in. Is that what I'm hearing you saying? So did this happen recently or what was the situation?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Yeah, so it actually did happen a couple of days ago where we were talking, connecting just a normal conversation, and all of a sudden something about something switched in my own mind of like, whoa, what do they want out of me? Or what do they desire out of me? I'm going to put more directed to my body, and also more of, I guess the fear of being seen, sharing my story and also, yeah,
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Sure. So what I don't want to happen is I don't want you to invalidate yourself, and this is a real common thing that people do as well, is that we start getting kind of aware, conscious, spiritual, and we go, man, am I just having limited beliefs and I'm pulling this in from my past baggage? And that might be some of the case, and we're going to take a look at your identity and how that's projecting out. But at the same time, sometimes, say for example, and I'm curious to know what was said on that text, because it doesn't matter what was said exactly, but also the intuition of feeling like, wow, what's the intention coming from the other side of this text? So I think there's many things to look at. One is who we are as a culture that we're connecting via text versus, Hey, how do we actually connect?
Speaker 1 (04:18):
And the other issue is, am I actually feeling intuitively something's off here from a intuitive basis of what the intention even is here? And then the third of course, which is the most important, is how much am I bringing in my own limited beliefs? Am I low self-worth into this or past traumas or things like that? So this is exactly a great conversation for people to begin to be able to make these distinctions so when they are dating or in a relationship or whatever, they can go, Hey, this is my crap I'm bringing in, versus this is not quite right over on that side. Right? Yeah. Great. Let's break this down. We want to, of course, we can take a look at all the objects out here, say there's a table and we're trying to organize it, right? It's just like organizing our love life. We have to organize it at some level, but if we kind of organize everything on top of the table, but we actually haven't put the foundation for the actual table to stand on, then it doesn't matter how much we rearrange, what app we go on, who we date, what matters is the foundation of the actual table that it's based on. So let's go there first. Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Yeah, for
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Sure. So who do you think, and obviously we need to get into a subconscious process and into trauma, really realize what are the commands, what is the identity? But what do you feel like is your identity around love? Do you feel like you're fully worthy of it? Where do you feel like you are in a spectrum of say, one, I completely do not believe I'm worthy of love. 10. I'm a hell. Yes. I know I absolutely am a thousand percent worthy of the most amazing badass relationship.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Yeah. So when you first mentioned it was like, yeah, I'm not worthy of love. But then all of a sudden it shifted of like, yeah, I am actually worthy of love 100%. But also there's that sense of that little voice behind me where it's like, you're not worthy.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
So the conscious mind and the subconscious mind, sometimes there's a gap sometimes in the conscious mind, you're like, oh, yeah, I totally know that I'm a total catch, and I know that I would make a great partner. In the subconscious mind is like, yeah, not so much honey. We don't believe we're worthy of it at all. Right. So on that level, where do you feel like you're, when you're out picturing and take a look at your past relationships, where do you feel you are from a subconscious level of being able to really receive it and have it?
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Yeah, so it goes back to you just even witnessing the love from my parents more,
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Right? Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
And so my mom was very shut down and very, I remember my dad hugging my mom and she pushing him away and all that stuff more. Sorry, I totally did not answer your question, but
Speaker 1 (07:09):
No, it's good. It's great. This is actually completely answering it because we do, we learn through the mirroring cells of our parents, how they saw each other, but also how our parents looked at us.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Yeah, for sure. Totally. Even in past relationships, I totally was that exact reflection of my mom too, where I desired someone, but also I was super fearful, so I shut them down always. I was just kind of closed off.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
So I love that. Thanks you. So I mean, I think this is the most important thing because again, you could be out there dating and find, well, he did this or he said that, or whatever it is, but really it comes back to who are we going to show up in the relationship of our own? I love Abraham Hicks has a real small short clip, and it says, being cheatable upon nable. And the goal for you, or for anyone, for all of us, is to know that whatever someone else does in relationship does not necessarily have to do with us. If someone cheated, it would be actually more sad for that person because they went out of their own integrity than what it would necessarily say about us. So the goal today is to really just bring awareness to everyone listening and to you and to all of us to say, Hey, what is it really going to take for us to take care of our own baggage, come as light as we can into our relationship, have spiritual practices that we practice, but also know that what they have going on, they're doing their own stuff, they've got their own traumas, they've got their own low, they've got their own issues and stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
So let's just put it down into recovery for a minute because some people don't like the word recovery, but the truth is we're all recovering when it comes to our sexual world, our love world, our relationship world. So let's just take a look at the patterns for a minute of what would you say when you take a look at what happened on the app when you were responding, right, saying, Hey, I can't do this. Whatever it is that you came up with. Do you feel like that was coming from what kind of cycle, vicious cycle for you would you take a look at in your patterns?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yeah, so the cycle would be definitely just even, I've been in recovery myself from addiction as well for about three years. So it's been a very clearing process,
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Totally.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
But before the cycle was just while I was in active addiction, that's what it would be. I was always seeking validation out of sex and out of intimacy as well then. So I think that stuck with me as I got into recovery and just following that perspective, I guess.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Okay, so this is a perfect example. So here I was the same for years. I was very codependent and it was out of my own low self-worth, my own, my parents were divorced and feeling like I was unworthy of love. So I of course would choose partners that weren't even available. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy, right? And then once you do your clearing work, it sounds like you're in recovery, you're living this stuff, but there's still some guilt and shame around how we used love and sex and everything to validate. And so we want to make sure that we're bringing in a clear space. So let's pretend for a minute that nothing was going on on the other side. The person that you were texting with didn't just want you for sex. They were from a pure intention. What would be the belief that would be projecting out for that self-fulfilling prophecy, whether that person was coming from a good space or a bad space, sum it up an identity, what would that identity be? So
Speaker 2 (10:59):
That identity would definitely, so if nothing was going on,
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Nothing was going. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
So more of I feel like I would be going with the flow. I would feel like there's nothing to be, there's not that little tweety bird at the back of my head kind of pondering.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
So that would be your divine self, right? Yeah. The fully empowered divine self of fully being able to express, receive, love, have intimacy. Right. So the opposite of that, if you were to say summing up a limited belief or limited identity, who's that person, if you will? What would be the false identity? What would be that limited identity?
Speaker 2 (11:38):
So the false identity would definitely be that scared, that scared little girl. I feel like just kind of desiring love, but also tiptoeing on her toes and just kind of around.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Yeah. Okay, cool. I love that. So the definition of insanity is placing everything into one, meaning knowing, know the differences and similarities, right? Yes. So we want to make sure that we're going, okay, Jenny's going to do this work over here to make sure that she fully does her trauma work, clears up her amends with herself and others to be able to fully step into the highest confident, secure divine self that she is. Okay. So we know this is the work to do regardless if we're dating, not dating on apps in married, it doesn't matter that that's the work for each individual to do. The next work is to say, Hey, how do I understand where someone else is coming from? So this is where getting clear of having a plan and a policy and procedure in dating, and I remember going through this years ago when I actually was codependent and I wanted to start having a healthy relationship, and part of that was, for me, was not being intimate with somebody for X amount of time, and that's called a relative truth.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
What works for somebody else? Maybe they're able to be intimate and do whatever, but what I had to get is I had to be responsible for my emotions. So if I needed to not get triggered in my emotions and be responsible for it, one of the things would be I can't be intimate with somebody until I know them enough. So we have to start looking at who's Jenny and what works for her in her relative truth of getting to know somebody. So I don't know what the texts were, and maybe you want to get a little bit more juicy in details of what was actually stated on the text you, was it just energetically, or was it something that he said of making it was just sexual?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Yeah, so it was just kind of getting into that sexual energy more of we're an hour apart, and so he was saying, yeah, I wish I could come down and all this stuff. And that's when my thoughts kind of like, okay, see That's right. See this? That's the,
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Okay, so human beings, we do what the facts happen. They send a text that says X, and then we put meaning on it. And that meaning's confusing because sometimes it's an intuition of the meaning, and sometimes it's our own baggage that we're putting the meaning on it. So we now need to be able to decipher what is the meaning. So this is what a healthy person would do. Okay. What did that mean by when you said you would come down, did that mean sexual or did that mean just you wanted to hang? Or just what did that mean for you? Right. Instead of assuming whatever the meaning was. Right.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
That's so true,
Speaker 1 (14:40):
So basic and yet so challenging for all of us, and oftentimes we're afraid to ask because our past partners or lovers or boyfriend or husband or whatever would've freaked out and gotten mad when we asked the question because it's called deflecting. So say you asked him and said, Hey, what did you mean by that? Just curious. I'm curious to know, did that mean sexually? Does that mean that you want to hang out? What did that mean to you? And if they got upset, then generally it's because they have something they're hiding or some covert way versus a healthy person would say, oh yeah, it actually was sexual, but I'm actually really interested in having a long-term relationship. I actually thought we totally vibed on our conversations. We would begin to learn each other without reacting. Sure.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Even the next message that you sent too was more, I said, I haven't been surrounded by the kindest people. I haven't been, my body hasn't been around the kindest people too. So that's where I kind of pushed my own little there.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
But we have to be responsible for our emotions. So we have had past traumas around sexual stuff and whatever. Then it's something we have to take responsibility. And part of that is making sure, one, that we keep ourselves safe and go slowly into things, or we're communicating with that person to let them know, Hey, I've been through a lot, and if you want to get to know me, or if you want to date me, you're going to have to know that there's a lot of emotions around sexual stuff for me, and either you're going to need to be willing to wait a long time, or you're going to be willing to really work for these emotions with me. It's just full communication. For sure,
Speaker 2 (16:30):
For sure. And that's so, so true even the next day. Because even when that was happening, I totally went to do a full on breakdown, a big breakdown that I haven't even experienced in a long time. So it was coming, but it was just felt like a mess. And then all of a sudden the next day I was like, yeah, understanding my healing is my responsibility, not, I shouldn't be putting that onto you either.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
It's such an important conversation. So let's now go even deeper. Okay, let's go even way, way deeper. Because it is not just a belief. I've been witnessing and I've been obsessed with consciousness for so long, and I'm obsessed to understand why are so many people struggling in relationship? What is this exactly? Because we can have our friends, we can have work, we may even have some stuff with our family, but maybe it's not reactive as much. And so there's an area of the intimate world that can be so intense for people, and this is what I'm going to invite right now. Okay. Jenny, I would imagine you're a spiritual. You're spiritual, correct? I can feel it, yeah. Okay. Oh, yeah. Okay. And we understand the basics, meaning that if we place our power over to our relationship, that's codependency, right? We're placing our power. It means my happiness, my source of joy is contingent upon this relationship, and if we place them as our source of joy, we instantaneously assign them our source of suffering. Wow. Right? Because it's two sides of the same coin. So if we're looking for a romantic relationship to bring us feeling good, that's actually, it's going to instantaneously be the same thing that brings us suffering. That's
Speaker 2 (18:24):
So true.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
So I have a deeper real friend to friend. I care about you. Question for you that I would ask my best friend, and I would want my best friend to ask me, which is, do you really want freedom around relationship? Yeah, yeah. Meaning do you want to be liberated from your emotions tied to the ups and downs of relationship?
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Yeah, I totally, I feel like when you said that, just like a releasing just, yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
Now the next question, anything in the universe and anything in life is what are you willing to do for that?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
That's a really good question. Almost. It goes back to the two-sided coin. There's one side that I'm willing to go far and deep as possible to do this, and then there's also a sense of, but it's going to hurt. Or just that block. I just want to frame it as a block.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
I think a lot of the recovery, if we go into recovery, it's a day-to-day practice and the day-to-day practice of true recovery, true spiritual recovery, true love, recovery, addiction, recovery, is handing it over to what we would call a higher power, which I believe is us, just our higher version of ourselves, the I am. And it's a deep, deep practice daily, breath by breath, moment by moment, right? And my deepest wish for you is for you to have that freedom. Thank you. So the cool thing about this in my opinion, is that when we get to this place of realizing it has nothing to do with the person over there, it has really nothing to do with the situation. It has to do with us having a deeper relationship with our higher self.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
Yeah, 100%.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
Then we don't even, I mean, yes, it's great to pull in a healthy partner, but at the same time, we don't have to worry about micromanaging and figuring out if they're perfect and figuring out all those things that really aren't. It's not our job.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Yeah. Wow. This is when you said it's not our job. It's like, so that backpack that I've been carrying for a very long time with rocks, more of just kind of taking that one rock out hos, and it's not your responsibility. Well, to an of course responsibility
Speaker 1 (20:48):
To an extent powerful. And that's what I think that the traditional kind of therapy, if you will, around relationship therapy. It's like, well, just communicate better like this, or just stop making him wrong. Just stop. It's like little tiny things, or you could just actually take off the whole backpack. In my opinion, it's a no-win situation to micromanage the entire thing in that. The question for you is who do you want to be like, let's wave the magic wand and let's say, who do you want to be? Whether it be just beginning to date or in a relationship or with your partner, who do you want to be? Do you want to be unshakeable to where no matter if they're, excuse my language, but if they're a dick one day or in a bad mood or whatever it is that we're like, Hey, so sorry that you're going, I'm going to actually get into a place of peace. You're no longer responsible for my happiness. You're not responsible for making me feel validated that I'm here as your partner, but I can't do that for you. I can't make you happy either. I can't validate you enough to have you not in a bad mood. What would it be like for you to walk into a relationship fully whole and complete and not needing anything or being afraid of anything because you are whole and complete from the divine within?
Speaker 2 (22:13):
That's a drop the mic moment for sure. That's very empowering, to be honest, because just that unshakable identity, I feel like there's a sense of being so far away from that, but also recognizing that it is in my power to do so.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
You're so authentic. I really love who you are. I don't even know you, and you just have this really cool vibe. Even when you're listening, you're really intentionally listening, and I feel so seen by you. I feel so loved by you, and I really, really know what it's like to suffer deeply, deeply in relationship. And the only thing that has really ever given me salvation from all of it is being able to hand my power over and over again to my higher self and knowing that when I set the intention of I am love, I don't need to get it from my partner per se.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
Yeah, that's so true. Wow.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
And you are so, you're such a loving spirit. I can feel it so much, and I don't think it's any accident that we came here today together. So I would like to know what you want to put the order into the universe, what you want to declare for yourself so that we can do a spiritual mind treatment and just know that truth together. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Yeah. So yeah, it comes back to, I like the little recipe you mentioned. That's powerful. So it's what I want to declare as a relationship that
Speaker 1 (23:45):
No, who you want to be in relationship. And I feel so, I mean, you can declare whatever you want. You can declare you want to be married. You can declare you want to be single, but I believe it's about embodiment. So who do you want to be? Regardless of what that out picturing is? The true manifestation is you are the manifestation. Yes.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Thank you for that clarification, by the way. I kind of totally took that a different direction, but more who do I want to be? I want to be strong. I want to be in my power. I being able to take my power when take back my power if I'm giving it away and just that almost I don't need you kind of deal more like I am whole. I'm safe. I'm here, I'm present, kind of. Yeah,
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Yeah. I don't need you, but I choose you. Yeah. Power. So beautiful. So beautiful. Let's take a deep breath together. Just coming into the divine right here. I recognize who Jenny is. I see her as the divine, the queen, the goddess, the one she's been waiting for. And in that wholeness and in that completeness, knowing all traumas are healed, the tears in her soul from all lineage have been sewn up and complete into her oneness, her divineness. I recognize in this authority that she's able to give love, powerful love, deep love, intimate love, abundant love, recognizing that where anybody is not able to receive that, that does not have to do with her. But she also can stand an unconditional love for everybody that comes into her field. I see this as her divine path home to the heart, to the unconditional love within self-love, and it pours over from her cup as she gives it to the world exponentially. And I say, thank you so much for this divine appointment. I'm so grateful. I'm so grateful for any suffering, any traumas, any place that I felt the division in mind. And I say yes to this woman absolutely loving her life and being the embodiment of the highest divine love. I say this in the name of truth as together we say, and so it is.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
It's so powerful.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
So I just want to go over a couple of things for the listeners again. Okay. Yeah. So we want to make the distinction of when you're confused, whether you're dating, is it what is going on? One is we want to take a look at what's the actual traumas and false beliefs and limited beliefs that we're projecting into something versus how do we actually make wise decisions to know what the intention is of somebody else? And part of that is yes, listening to our intuition, but the problem is our intuition is oftentimes blanketed by all of our past traumas. So just simple communication to understand where someone's coming from and watching their actions versus their words is really important for distinguishing and taking responsibility. So as Jenny said, I know this so well, is that majority of us have traumas around sex, love, and relationship. So we have to have responsibility around our emotions.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
We can't expect for our partner or someone we're dating to be able to navigate our emotions. We have to take full responsibility for the emotions, and that means either going slower to take full responsibility to not project that into it, or that means having full communication to have them realize that we have a lot of emotions around us, and if they want to engage with us at an intimate level, that they're also going to come with all of us, which is all of our emotions at this point in time. So again, it's taking full responsibility, and that's the first level we went to. The second level was going to a much deeper level of saying, Hey, we don't have to manage all these things on the tabletop of my past trauma, my emotions, who I'm dating, how I'm dating. And rather, we can go to the divine and say, Hey, I'm going to surrender to my higher self. I'm going to become the beloved love, and I'm going to release all trying to control how I date, when I date, who I date and all that, and know that in that divine presence that it's going to unfold with perfection in that. Yeah. So great. So what's your biggest takeaway today for yourself?
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Just leaning. I love the reflection that you just even just provided me, again, with the whole foundation of, I don't have to figure out what's on the tabletop at this moment, but the foundation is my higher self, my divine self.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Yeah. So how are you going to have a practice? Do you have a practice for meditation? And we do spiritual mind prayer. We don't pray to a man the Skype or say, we honor each and everyone's truth around that. But what's your practice to kind of get into oneness within yourself?
Speaker 2 (28:31):
So it comes back to my morning walks, going on a walk, just finding a little area of grass and kind of grounding.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
I love that. That's so great. That's so good. So beautiful. So as a doctor, divinity, which I'm not a traditional therapist, we heal through revealing truth, but I am going to give you a little prescription today. Okay. So the prescription for you is to do that trauma work of whatever trauma is in the past, wherever you're called, you're welcome to come and work with us as well, but wherever you're called for that to do the trauma work, the second real prescription for you is for you to just keep doing that daily walk and whatever it is in your meditation or prayer, whatever it is, for you to connect with that and to release the need to fix, change or do whatever, figure out somebody else. We don't even have to figure out somebody else. When we come back to that oneness, there's inspired knowingness in there, and we just take that one next inspired action.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
Yeah, it's so powerful. I really appreciate this
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dr. Erin Podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity, I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are, and I believe in you together, we're awakening the world. Okay, you guys, we have the next caller. I'm super excited because we have so many women that come on to the show and come into the program, and so we always honor the divine masculine cloths is in here today. I'm super excited to have you. Welcome, welcome, welcome. How are you cloths?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Oh, I'm fine. I feel fantastic.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Amazing. So we're gonna just dive right in this today. I did read a little bit of your application and reading around money and making friends, and so we wanna dive into knowing the truth. But what we first wanna do is kind of break down what's going on. What are the patterns that you're seeing for yourself that you're ready to break through?
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Um, like, um, I realized I'm 50 years old and, uh, I've realized that, um, since childhood, since I started, uh, in school, I've told myself that I'm not, uh, worth anything. I've realized that now. 'cause when I started school, the teachers told me that you can't do that and you are not ready for that and you can't speak correctly. So you need to go to someone who can learn you to use all the words and so on. So, I'm just realized that and try to be valuable.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Wow. I'm just feeling your energy right now. Just so you know. I'm feeling this profound, beautiful, divine, powerful man and just your deep desire to know yourself and to really step into your greatness. And so I just wanna honor that first of all. Okay. So let's just take a look at what's the impact. Let's pretend that nothing changed. Let's pretend that what you've been doing for the last 50 years keeps persisting for the next 10, 20, 30 years. What's the negative impact? What's the loss of potential of who? Kloss?
Speaker 2 (02:28):
I I think it's more like I've realized what I missed the last 50 years that I could have been so much more.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
So it's not, it's, yeah. So if everything stays the same, then I realized that, oh, I'm missing out on, on a lot of things, which I mm-hmm. <affirmative> missed out the last 50 years because I didn't feel like it was worth it.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
I'm hearing grief
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
In the conversation. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>,
Speaker 2 (02:59):
I love her grief.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. It's okay. It's a, it is really an honor for you to just express the sadness and just allow it. But what I recommend is not put meaning on it. Mm-hmm. Or not resist it. 'cause that's gonna make it persist. So just honoring the divine cry of grief for all of us, for the loss of what we can potentially never get back, which is the beautiful years of our lives of not living our full potential. So grief is created 'cause we create everything as the divine creators that we are. And grief is created from the consideration that what we value is gone. So I'm here to just know with you, cla that you are an infinite spiritual being. That you're immortal and you're not this body, you're not the years of that have passed. You really have the full potential right here, right now. And that I'm really honored to claim that with you today if you are ready to claim that for yourself.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Oh, yes.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah. Hmm. I love that. So, obviously we're not gonna get into a trauma incident here because it, it's hard for people to really fully get the profound experience that happens for the client when they're going through, through a trauma process. But it sounds like you've already tracked through, 'cause I know your wife is in society and in, in the program with me. And so, can you remember the incident that happened as a child when you powerfully decided that you weren't enough? That you weren't worthy?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
No, that's the problem. I, I think it's like memories coming back that people when, you know, we, in Sweden, we, we, when I was like six years old, I started in preparation school, we had to learn to tie on our shoes and learn the time and things like that to be prepared for school. Mm-hmm. And I can just remember that everyone else could do that, but I was always needing help from the grownups, uh, to do it. 'cause I couldn't do it myself. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. So I felt like I wasn't, I wasn't normal. So, so that's the thing that happened there. I, I would say,
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Yeah. So the, the human behavior, what we all have at some level is that the core, core limited beliefs, the core, core what we call commands, that happened in the middle of a traumatic incident, whether it be big or small, it could be literally that a teacher, you know, tells us that we're bad in the middle of tying our shoes and we get traumatized because it's the emotions that are in us, right? So the core commands for all of us, or I'm not enough, something's wrong with me, I don't belong, you know, these are the, this is the human condition. So I wanna just honor you because hopefully one man will watch this or listen to this and knows that it's okay, especially as a white man to say, it's okay to say, I actually have had trauma, or I've had suffering as well. Because I feel like the world kind of victimizes and makes the white man into the villain. I know that you've been through a lot in your d n a in your lineage, so we don't know if this is coming from this lifetime or last lifetime, or it's all one divine life. So I just wanna honor you in that. So what did you decide, what was the identity of cloth as a young man? What would you say? What was the, the identity, if you just say a script, right? You have a play
Speaker 2 (06:46):
In cloth. I think I decided, just as you said, I, I saw this white man, uh, drinking a lot of alcohol, uh, fighting, being abusive to women, everything like that. And I decided to be the opposite.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Who was that that you witnessed?
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Perhaps my father. I, I don't know mm-hmm. <affirmative>. But if something like that I didn't like that I didn't want to, or perhaps when I've, when I've been thinking about it, when I talked to about it with my wife, it's like also like I was a lot with my mother and she had a lot of fights with her, with my father. So I heard her speak ill about him, so I didn't want to be like him because then women would talk bad about me, you know? Yeah. So I tried to be something else.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Yeah. The vicious cycle of trying to make up for our, our lineage. Our karma. Yeah. So, curious to know how that pattern has played out today. How's it playing out in today in, in the four areas of life? Right. So we have relationships, money or career, health and vitality, and our expression, our purpose in calling our full expression. How's that pattern been playing out in your life?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
But I think most of the time I felt like, uh, other, other men are more successful than me. I have tried to be successful trying to work a a lot to make money, and then like, losing everything married once before, uh, <laugh> ruined that marriage, so it felt like I didn't succeed. Um, so that's been my, my truth to myself. Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>,
Speaker 2 (08:49):
You say
Speaker 1 (08:50):
On here that where you want and where you're ready for a breakthrough is in money and making friends.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Yeah. Okay, great. Amazing. So what would that look like for you? You have a magic wand. You are a divine spiritual being. You can mock it up however you want. I want you to tell me what that vision would look like for you.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
I, I would like to have a lot of men around me. Mm-hmm. Who wants to do the same thing as me. Mm-hmm. Like be, be some kind of other kind of man, not the violent man, not the abusive man, um, men who can see the divine, uh, in, in women.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Like the creation, because women are the ones who create. Mm-hmm. Um, and we would, we would like, we should see that as men instead of like, just see them as objects. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, I mean, so much in, in society today. The movies like I watched when I grew up, TV series and so on, uh, like women were an object. Yeah. And the men were like, um, the strong guys who did things. It, it's a joke to look at these Asian films with two theists and a, you know, which I mean, um, uh, look how they're treating women. And so, so, but, but I was, I saw that and that is what we have been taught, like we should. Perhaps that is a male that is man, and I want something else. So that's the vision.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Okay. So, so, so there's a very important distinction here. Mm-hmm. Because when I asked, what is it? What's the vision? You have a magic wand. You told me what you don't want and that's what I want. No, no. But, but we're just listening to the distinction. Okay. 'cause it's for all of us, we will often focus on what we don't want instead of really holding faith and in our, our divine mind, the vision. And so today, you know, obviously we can't get into the deep, deep trauma work, which is really what's going to neutralize those false identities and the commands. And obviously that's gonna be a prescription. I would say that as a doctor, divinity, I would make a prescription for you to do that deep, deep trauma work. But there's another prescription I'm gonna give you today, and the prescription is to focus on the vision of what you do want instead of what you don't want. So let's go a little bit further of what is that vision? Let's just, let's just play in, in the greatest, the greatest faculty we have, which is imagination. Einstein said the greatest faculty, Nicolette, all the great masters known this, right? So what is that vision? Because I know that there are so many men out there that are praying right now for that same exact vision. So let's speak it into existence in universe right now. Klaus. That's how powerful you are.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
I, I want to, for myself and other men, uh, that we can, uh, level up when it comes to be, to be men, to be something more, uh, to be like that We can see the divine in everyone that we can give love and, and peace to the world, um, and that we can make life easier for, for both women and and children. Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Beautiful. Let's take a deep breath together. We just do a spiritual mind treatment, which is really just opening up the divine consciousness individually, which opens up to the collective one divine consciousness that mastermind, that mind, that has all intelligence, wisdom. That is the first cause of creation, which is consciousness. And consciousness is the being with the wisdom. And so I invite us to take a deep breath in together, opening up our minds to that divine wise mind. I recognize cloth and who he is. I recognize the power that he is. I recognize the profound wisdom of all, the intelligence of all, all the inverted use of the energy that his father and mother and all the lineage has used. And I recognize the beauty in this because it is the true evolution that is born out of the chaos. A new world, a new earth, a new man, a new woman, a new life.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
And I claim this right now, knowing there is no age, there is no time, there is not multiple lifetimes, there is only here and now. And I recognize that klos can hold in his consciousness, which creates all of life right here, right now. It is the miracle of the creation of his power, of his mind, which is the one divine mind. And so I say, all suffering is done. All lack is done. All discordance is done, all abuse, all alcoholism is done in the divine mind. That clause from here, from this day forward claims his birthright of the power that he be. And I restore it and know it fully in my mind, it is done. This king is born, it is done, done, done in the name of truth. And I sit here in total gratitude, seeing him as the leader that has been called as his divine purpose, to claim his prosperity, his abundance, the friend that he is, and the son and the husband, and every last wr of whoever he chooses to be. It is done, done, done. I simply know this in the name of truth as together we say. And so it's, thank you so much. You were a great blessing to my life and heart today and to so many, and I want to truly, truly thank you for the courage for you to come here and open your heart. It's the most beautiful thing I could ever witness. Thank you so much, KLAS.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
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Transcriptions:
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dr. Erin Podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity, I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are, and I believe in you. Together we're awakening the world. Okay?
I am so excited for this next caller. So Karen, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I'm great. Thank you so much for doing this, Dr. Erin.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
It's super fun, right? We just get to get in here and dive into consciousness and, and hopefully whatever you're going through, um, we can serve others by just diving deep into consciousness, for sure.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. That's it. That's it. Exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Yeah. So tell me what's going on.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Well, I'll tell you, um, for whatever reason, I have done lots and lots of work, um, and, and overcome any number of things. And now I help others do the same thing. I'm just not bringing in the income to, to really be able to help myself pay my bills. I went into major debt with all of my trainings through the last 20 years. Mm-hmm. <affirmative> in this world and, uh, in this work. And it wasn't until 2018 that I started getting clear and being able to help myself so I could help others in a way that was authentic and caring and loving. And that's who I am. I think I like to think that anyway. And yet for whatever reason, I, I have no problem stating what I charge.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. Okay, great. So today, as, as you know, we're not gonna be getting into the skillset 'cause there's a lot of stuff business-wise that I'm, we can help you with. Okay. But, and we maybe can get into that for a few minutes after, after we get into the session. As you know, you know this okay. That we know that 99% of the success is, is energetics and mindset and, you know, 1% skillset. Okay. We know that. Um, so there's an important thing here. 'cause when I'm looking over your sheet here, it says, where in life are you feeling stuck? And it says, creating soul, fulfilling income that allows me to enjoy my life and enhance others' lives. Yeah. And there's such an important distinction here, and I'm saying this not only for you, but for me. Okay. And for so many, this is, I think the most important thing.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
It's my, this is like a distinction that is, if there's one distinction I could tell myself, this is the distinction. Okay. I'm gonna read it again. Okay. Where in life are you feeling stuck? You wrote, creating soul fulfilling income that allows me to enjoy my life and enhance others' lives. Okay? Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, damn, damn, damn. If our divinity work were to sum it up into one thing, it is, may we not put anything before God and God. Some people will be like, oh, I hate that word. Whatever you wanna call it. Source divine. The power that be within. Okay. If we need income out here to enjoy and to enhance other people's lives, we have now handed our power over to the external world over to money. And the most disempowering part about money is handing our power over to money. You know this. I know it. We forget it all the time. Every day.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Yeah, it absolutely. Um, and you're, you are right. I know that I, I look at, at money as a wonderful tool, basically. Yes. But it is, it is still there. It, it is my driving force mm-hmm. <affirmative> along with spirit. It is my driving force and, and my spirit and my is telling me, yeah. Yeah. Karen, you got it. You got it all. You got it. All right. Here you are ready to rock and roll.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
So what I see with, with people is a few things. Okay. We have a money story. And money I think is such a, such a beautiful conversation for transformation because it is. 'cause our culture puts so much significance on it and so much identity. And it is almost like we, we idolize the almighty dollar in our culture. And I'm all about it, girl, you know, that I'm all about prosperity and living abundantly and having beautiful experiences. However, we know factually that income does not equate to happiness.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Okay. You know this already. I'm not, I'm preaching to the choir. Right? Okay. But this is really a conversation for both of us because it's a remembrance every day for me. Okay. And I know lots of very, very successful, very, very successful people that are not happy necessarily. Okay? I know that's not where you're coming from, but I'm here to say, Karen, that you are divine all knowing, all powerful spiritual being and you know that, okay? And you at some level have signed up for the masterclass. We wouldn't, we wouldn't even be in this field if we didn't sign up to say, please universe, hire self god's sores within, show me the way to become the most empowered version of myself. Is that not correct for you?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
That is totally correct for me, Dr.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Yes. I totally get that for you. Okay. And we think, oh, you know, I can just do a little bit of meditation here. I can dabble it in over here. I can get enough distinctions to help people, to coach them, and to do whatever. I can get enough skillset and maybe I'll be able to make money, or maybe I won't be able to make money. But what I know and is the, the hardest masterclass of all of it is that we have to put divine source, God source first. That the money and the impact and the full leadership will never truly happen until we put that first. Which means if my bank account is at zero, I am still putting source first to know that that is my only source. That that is my source for innovation, that is my source for becoming magnetized, for to be, you know, pulling in and connecting with the highest resources and, and, and community and whatever it is, right? That it, there is, that must have, that has to be first to enjoy. My life cannot be contingent upon how much money I have. It's the opposite. When I become so enjoyed in spirit, I automatically inspire. And yes, I need to learn some skillset as well to build those funnels or do whatever it is that I gotta do. You know? How does this feel for you?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
It's a good reminder. It is a great reminder because I, I don't connect with source every day mm-hmm. <affirmative>, and yet I do know that that is source is my greatest. Yes. Um, I, I, as a matter of fact, just before coming on your podcast, I was connecting through my cards and spirit. Yes. And as you were speaking, I felt my guides with me. Mm-hmm. <affirmative> always guiding, always telling, showing me the way. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. Yes. And, and actually that's why we are here today. I know what it was sourced that had me open the email and the opportunity to be guided by you.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Yeah. I see you on so many levels. I see you absolutely as a, as a leader, as a woman, that that is fully embodying her highest version. And we need each other to remind each other the truth. I speak to you as if you are my best friend, because my own best friend would be saying the same thing to me. It's time for the world, for coaches, for spiritual, for science, for religion, whatever, across the board to know that we have to come home and, and drink from the only, well, there is for true wealth, true success. And we know this through the book, like 40 Days of Abundance, which is something every leader, every person should remember throughout any time they think, oh my gosh, I don't have an enough of enough clients, or Oh my gosh, I don't have enough money before we even get to the skillset.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Because trust me, I've put out lots of funnels that, that don't do well if I'm not in the right energetics. Okay. So it's not just about discovering the skillset, like getting back to that 40 days of abundance. I'm sure you've done it. There's 10 basically statements of truth that help us remember that prosperity is not out there. That even the dollar bill was created by man and is worthless. That it really is a symbol of the exchange of energy. And that if we remember that all innovation, all, everything is only from one source. And that if until we're in that source, nothing works in our business anyway. So I believe this is a divine appointment.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
I agree. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, I agree.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
And as leaders, we know that wherever we're struggling, the only way that we get to be held accountable is to actually give it. So my invitation for you is what can you create in your business or on social media or with your girlfriends or with whatever, to hold yourself accountable in remembering the true prosperity within?
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Oh wow. What a great question. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. Yeah. And I really don't have an answer for that, but it's a wonderful question.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Great. We don't have to have the answer right now, because only divine can answer that deep in prayer and meditation for yourself.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Yeah. I know. Like I said, as you were speaking, I could, I could feel my guides here and I truly do and am so grateful for the guidance. Yes. That comes through and the abundance that I have heaven nose, and there's so much I wanna be able to do mm-hmm. <affirmative> and to share. And I want to be able to do this. And unfortunately in our world today, oftentimes it requires the monetary exchange.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
I wouldn't say it's unfortunate, all because the monetary exchange is just a symbol of our exchange of energy. So thank God there's a monetary exchange. Thank God it demands that for us to have to bring value and receive value and need each other because that's all money is. It's an exchange of energy
Speaker 2 (12:34):
And yes, you are right. And honestly, nothing does change in a person's life unless they do invest in themselves.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. So, as you know, we don't do the deep, deep stuff on here on the podcast 'cause it's hard to like, have people experience a trauma, you know, thing and things like that. But I'm gonna write you a prescription just from a doctor Divinity perspective. Okay?
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Okay. Sounds great.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
One is we wanna get clear of, of, of your identity around money. Identity is usually around, of course, our self-worth equals our net worth. Okay? Mm-hmm. <affirmative> in that doesn't mean you need to, you're already a multi-billionaire from a spiritual perspective, okay? So I'm not talking about the money of the bank that's in your bank account, but I'm talking about your self-worth. Okay? And that comes down to trauma and the commands that we create and the limited false identities. So we wanna get clear of the prescription for you, is for us to heal thyself, is to do that deep, deep trauma work. Not just trauma informed, not just realizing the identity, but actually neutralizing through regression of really where that was created and neutralizing it. Okay? The second is my, my invitation and my prescription is for you to go within to God's source within until your cup runeth over with prosperity.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
And we know what that is. It's, you can't really describe it to anybody. You can't really know it until you've experienced that, you can't experience that. Right? And I know you've experienced it. I have an intuition that you definitely have experienced that. So sometimes like, well, I don't have time to meditate, I don't have time to pray. Well, then you better go meditate and pray 10 times more, right? So like that's the invitation to have that c e o meeting with your highest self and go in there without any need to get anything. That's, this is the trick of it, right? To not go in to say, Hey, I want the answer to prosperity. Hey, show me how to innovate on this. Hey, that's not how it works. When we go into Revere Divine, we go into serve divine to listen, to be in the silence and not need anything or expect anything or want any attachment to the outcome of it, but rather to release, let go surrender and die into the nothingness. I'm inviting you to do those two things, to do whatever work it is to heal the trauma which has caused the limited beliefs. And number two, to have such a powerful spiritual practice with meditation and prayer that your cop runeth over.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Great. Yeah. Let's do a prayer together. Taking a deep breath in, exhaling out. Mm. Just giving gratitude for any feeling of lack, giving gratitude for any frustration of, of not having business go to the next level, or not getting the next client, or not having my bank account however I want it to be. Thank you for that. That because that is the demanding for me to come home to the true wealth, to the well within, to that divine source, to the only source. And I recognize right now, right here, absolutely that Karen is endowed with the highest benefic beneficiary of all of the bank accounts, all the gold, all the wealth, that she is the benefactor of every divine prosperity, of abundance of this universe and beyond. I recognize who she is. She is the infinite, infinite, infinite creator that within her is this, well, that is forever giving and expanding in all ways, in all faculties, knowing exactly what innovation and inventions, knowing how to bring value to every single person, wherever is needed.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
I know that this is a divine appointment for her to remember who she is and claim her divine prosperity. I say yes to all of it, whether it be in the luxuries of material wealth or the luxury of beautiful intimate relationships, or the expression of onstage or in books and podcasts or whatever her heart desires. I recognize right here that every time she feels frustrated, anytime she feels lack, that that is divine saying, come home. Come home to the prosperity with income into this L luxury, luxury, luxury life of the divine. And I say yes to her, embodying and becoming right now the greatest leader that has ever led knowing. She is the student and the teacher. It is done as together we say. And so it's, yes. Thank you. You are so welcome. Thank you for letting me remind myself as well. Thank you for tuning into the Dr.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Erin podcast. If you're ready to reprogram your subconscious mind, transform your trauma and birth your soul's calling, or if you're ready to become an accredited spiritual psychology coach and E4 trauma method facilitator, and get trained in spiritual psychology, universal law, intergenerational trauma work, past life, regression work, metaphysics of mind, and so much more, go to soul society.com or Dr. Aaron tv if you're receiving value from the show. I would love it if you share it with a friend and give it a five star review. Also, you can join me in one of my live free trainings. You can find it right on the website as well. Or in my bio link across all social media. I'm drerin.tv across all platforms, drerin.tv. Have a beautiful day and may you live your truth.